I'm feeling a bit deflated :(
I'm feeling a bit down about everything at the moment and I'm not sure of the best way forward.
I used to be more relaxed with Cain. When I was trying to socialise him myself with other dogs in the park, I would be actively approaching people with dogs and we'd end up having a chat and they'd give Cain a little pet and all was good. Last summer he met a number of strangers and was fine.
Since starting the dog socialisation class (which, don't get me wrong, is a God send) I've become a walking hermit
They advise (and it makes a lot of sense) that we avoid all other dogs out on walks. This is for a few reasons. Firstly so he can learn a whole new skill set from the teaching dogs before applying it to unknown dogs in the real world. Secondly they say that he should be meeting all dogs off lead, I don't let him off lead on walks, so as yet it is inappropriate for him to be letting me meet dogs on walks. They says those who stick to this rule tend to progress a lot faster, so I have been actively avoiding direct contact with other dogs in between classes.
I work on on lead calming around other dogs, and he does see them at agility etc, but only gets contact and to interact twice a month at class. He occasionally gets to meet Karly's dogs or his husky friend, but I don't have any other dogs he knows well enough to let him walk with at this stage. I worry this isn't enough interaction to allow him to progress.
It seems to be having a negative impact on his socialisation with humans. I'm now even more tense on walks this summer than I was last year! I try not to be, but it's easier said than done. I find if people try to approach us, I stop several feet away. In avoiding other dogs, I seem to have slipped into the habit of avoiding everyone. If he's on a longline, I reel him in, I don't feel I can trust him to walk past people even though he does ignore them 95% of the time. I get annoyed if places are too crowded (but it's London in summer, of course it's crowded!), I feel annoyed if people are "stupid enough" to walk to close to us (completely unreasonable as it's a public place they have a right to be in and they don't know he has issues). I know my feelings are unreasonable
I just want to be left alone on walks and I'm counting the days too rainy winter.
I can't remember feeling like this last year
And I'm worried that it is going to be detrimental to Cain's progress with people if I keep behaving like this. He can handle walking past people and ignoring them but I can't remember the last time we stopped to have a chat. I'd be horrified now if a stranger wanted to pet him, where as I was mire relaxed last year and we didn't have any problems.
The last few weeks I have felt worse because of a few minor incidents. The first training session at the vet, she was hand feeding Cain beef without looking at him, he ate for about a minute then he jumped up and lunged at her face
There was no trigger we could identify, now we've taken training way back to the beginning where she's sitting on the other side of the room. He was pretty reactive in our first agility class last week and when the new dog trainer came over to meet Cain I was horrified. I let her pat him for like 2 seconds before I called him away out of fear he would react. I wouldn't have felt like this last year and I don't know WHY I feel like this now???? Yesterday we were at a Ttpuch workshop and the practitioner stood next to us, I was doing a touch wrong so she slide up next to us (in what she thought was a non threatening way) and tried to show me. Cain growled and lunged
I think this was because he didn't see her coming so I sort of understand it. He is much better with calm, confident greetings when he know contact I'd coming, I think she just surprised him.
But it's all shaken my confidence
I know I need to do something to kick start his progress. I think I've fallen into avoidance rather than training and I didn't even realise I had done it. I've lost confidence
I wonder if I start muzzling him on walks (I usually just shorten his lead to keep him under control and this has always been sufficient), it would give me more confidence to give him a bit more slack on his lead when walking past people? It's not that I think he would do anything but there's always this little seed of doubt that he might, so I feel happier with him on a shortened lead but then this isn't giving him much of a chance. The muzzle would be for my confidence levels rather than because I really think he'd bite.
I think maybe all these feelings have come to a head because I'm going to meet a toller breeder next weekend with the potential of going on her waiting list. Now this would be for a puppy in 2013/2014, so not for a few years. The breeder also understands it is contingent on Cain's progress and should he not be ready I would have to delay/cancel. However now it's becoming a reality, I feel like I'm totally insane for even considering another dog, even in 2-3 years time, when I'm feeling like this at the moment
I have a bit of an action plan. I remember some good advice C&D gave me once before when I felt that we were regressing, she said "are you walking, or are you training?" and I think we've fallen into the trap of simply avoiding and walking. Now I've recognised it, I can address it. I am going to re-read James O'Heare's dog aggression workbook again and start working through it properly, I'm going to buy myself a copy of Control Unleashed and work regularly on those exercises in there. I am going to makes sure I stick to Ttouch now and do it on a daily basis, I heard enough anecdotes yesterday to convince me that it's worth a try. I an toying with the idea of putting his DAP collar back on (we removed it to see if it was helping him or not) but I am unsure how much help it still is and I don't want to put it back on as a knee jerk reaction.
I have our second agility class later today and I really need to shake off this frame of mind and get more positive quickly or it's going to be a disaster.
But I always thought I would feel more confident this summer, rather than less