Awww, thankyou, thankyou all of you, sorry I don't have time to answer each one in turn, but thankyou from the bottom of my heart.xxxx
This morning was a birthday like no other, and I actually forgot until Dave handed me his card and kissed me on the cheek. In all my years, 59 of them today
mum has never forgotten my birthday, no matter where she has been, and I've always had a little cheque in it to get myself something nice, but today there was no birthday card, even though she did ask me weeks ago to get myself a card for her (she's always well in advance for birthdays!) and I wish I had now, but I just laughed and said she had plenty of time, little did I know then, what little time she had left. Then I opened a letter from the pensions people and I thought to myself, tcht, what do THEY want now coz I've already done all that over the phone last Monday, and inside was a cheque addressed to me for the exact amount that my own mother would have given me for my Birthday, and I thought that was quite spooky, so thanks Mum, she didn't forget it then!
I opened a birthday card, then a condolence card, then another birthday card, and another condolence card and that's how it went on, but thankfully, most people had put on my birthday card Birthday Girl on the front of the envelope so that I knew the difference before evening opening it, how very thoughtful of them. I would like to say a massive thankyou to RRMum (aka Jo) for a lovely and unexpected surprise card of condolence, and how you got my address I don't know, but I can guess!!!!xxxx Thanks Jo, that was a lovely surprise to me this morning. I mustn't forget Elaine too, coz hers arrived the other day, and she's going to light a candle for me on Tuesday when she watches the funeral live coz I will know she will be with me even though she'll be sitting at home drinking her voddy!
I went to the solicitor this morning and got copies of the will in case I might need to have them for Tuesday if anyone asks me for a copy, which I am expecting.
There are quite a few coming now, some who I thought would never want to, and as for the others, I just don't know now, because my e-mails get sent straight back to me or left unanswered, so I'm just going to do what mum would want me to do, what is required of me, and they can take it or leave it can't they.
Now I'm sitting all alone, surrounded by beautiful flowers, waiting for the funeral director to ring me to tell me whether mum is ready for my visit. It really does seem strange, that I will be standing by her side, placing my letter into her coffin and a few other bits I would like in there, speaking to her softly, probably crying (I'll try not to!) and telling her how very strange it is that we have gone full circle, from her giving birth to me today, and now I'm standing here giving her my final farewell, it's all very odd isn't it. I'll remind her of the roast lamb she never got around to eating that night when I was determined that she should drop everything and get the midwife in coz I was on my way! Lol! She did laugh when she told me about that, coz she had been looking forward to this roast lamb dinner all day! LOvely memories, especially of her smile that lit up the room, and her laughter which she never knew she had until she came here I'm sure of that, life was all too hectic and busy for her, let alone traumatic most of the time, so I have that now, knowing how very happy she was with us in her sunset years.
I'm planning my hour long walk with Zena, my friend and her dog tomorrow through the woods where mum was in the care home, she's a very dear friend we go back many years, and it'll be nice to natter about old memories that are bound to make us laugh, especially where mum was involved, we spent a holiday at mum's villa once and kept her out all night, much to the disapproval of my brother, but mum just loved it!
Thankyou all once again, even those who are peeking and not posting, and anyways, it's better than the telly at the moment hey?!!!xxxxxx Thanks each and everyone of you.xxxx