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Some more (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) for you Lynn
Don't I know EXACTLY how you are feeling!!!!! The times I've said what you've just said, i.e. the ".......all because Mum............"
Oh I was there sooooo many, many times in the past. I just hope that one day, hopefully soon, you will be in the position I am in now, with everything done and dusted, with somebody taking good proper care of your Mum so you don't have half the worry of her. Sometimes I said to myself "why am I rushing around like a blue a*se fly here doing all this?????? Oh yes, coz SHE needs this, that or the other", and somehow, my whole life got put to one side, and that included both my dogs and my husband, and this can happen without you realising it!! It was only when my mum went into that Care Home,that things started to change, and I thought to myself, although I love her dearly and she needs this, that and the other, I am NOT prepared to forget that WE do have a life too! The best thing I EVER did was to get this current carer lady in, and at least this way, whatever needs doing, even if it IS for Mum, I can get on with it all in a nice, calm manner, unlike you by the sounds of it! That's understandable though, coz you're running around trying to get everything organised so she can get back home I know that, but pour another glass of that vino (and one for me!!!!
)and sit yourself down and either pick up the phone and sort out the boiler another way, or phone the people you're already dealing with again and make another appointment if you haven't already for that surveyor. The trouble is Lynn, when everything is piling high on top of you, you start making silly mistakes because you're mind isn't on one thing or the other, it's all in such a mess with everything you have to do, and the only way to sort that out, is to try and relax, especially with a glass of vino
and try and see it all in a different perspective, a list if you like, and then you'll be able to do it all slowly and efficiently!! I can soooooooo see where you're coming from Lynn, and also the direction in which you're heading and that's not good!!! Try not to snap at Gordon either when he walks through that door coz I know my poor old Dave always managed to get it off me when things had gone like your day!!! Once she's back home Lynn, it will get better, but let's just hope it stays that way and she behaves herself!!!
I feel quite guilty the way things are going so smoothly for me at the moment, even my dog isn't ripping his fur out anymore...... I wonder if THAT tells me something too!!!!!
You take care, I'm always wondering how you're coping.xxxxxxxxxx