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Location: Motherwell, UK
Joined: May 2009
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I just don't know what to do anymore...
I’m not good at talking about me, or my problems… but im just feeling so awful and lost just now that I just need to get it out…
i just don’t know what to do anymore… I feel like I mess everything in my life up. Im 20, I live with my parents, I don’t drive and im doing nothing… I meant to be a college this year, but I haven’t been for the last 3 months. I have borderline personality disorder (BPD), and a big part of that is feel depressed so I sometimes just find it so hard to get up and out the door to go to college. i don’t even know if the college will let me go back after Christmas. I just feel I have messed it all up so much… and that I am doing absolutely nothing with my life. I work, but its rubbish hours with not the greatest pay.
I also feel I have no friends… I have friends I text and call but don’t really see any of them. for one reason or another all the friends I had at school, are no longer friends. I used to have 3 really close girl friends at school, but they all went of the uni and made other friends, and me and my male friend who was also part of our wee group, were basically just ditched as we didn’t see them anymore. But now I don’t see him much either coz we live a fair distance away, and neither of us drive. And to get to his it is either about an hours walk or 2 buses so its not easy to see him regularly. And my other friends I have drifted from for a variety of reason, such as, saying horrible things to me and making me feel worthless, stealing from me, distance etc… it makes me feel so lonely sometimes…
And then I have problems with my bf. Because of the BPD, it can make me very difficult sometimes. I admit that, I can be clingy and I often don’t trust him so I sometimes question him and he just feels closed in… I know what I do to him, and how I make him feel. And I have improved immensely but I do still have my problems that I am working on. But while I have my problems, he does too… he has severe anger, and so sometimes he just doesn’t have any patience for me and will go into a mood over practically nothing… and can stay in that mood for days, without saying a word to me.
Today, we had a massive fight. We were meant to go out for new years, but while I was round at his earlier he told me we weren’t doing anything. He was going out with his mates. I was so angry but I didn’t say anything coz I didn’t want a fight, but he could tell from my face. So he just told me to get my stuff together and leave. I didn’t understand why he was reacting like that, so I tried to talk to him and he just flipped. He started going crazy, screaming and shouting. So I got my stuff, and he ran me home. The whole way we were fighting and yelling at each other, and he told me he didn’t want to see me ever again. He has said this a few times before, and always does talk to me once he has calmed down. But he once went 5 days without talking or texting me. when he gets angry, he doesnt think about what he is saying and how it makes me feel. and when he isnt angry, he admits he does that but there is just no reasoning with him when he is in that state... he said really hurtful things to me today though... 'freak', 'psycho', 'crazy', just to name a few...
Part of BPD is fear of abandonment. So now I am going crazy, I don’t know what to do… he might never talk to me again, and just cut me off… I don’t know what I will do without him. I love him so much, and I do absolutely anything for him… and he does the same for me. Through everything that I have been through the last few years, he has been my rock. He is always there when I need him, and im always there for him. I know I probably sound so ridiculous and desperate, but I do love him so so much. He loves me too, and I know he cares about me a lot. The things he does and way he acts shows me that, but why does he need to do this to me… he does much worse things to me, and I never ever treat him like this… he just has such a bad temper, he did get help for it but it didn’t work…
I just don’t know what to do anymore… and now its 2010 and it just feels like this year will be as bad as the last...