Don't let him dictate what you can and can't do as regards going outthat's no way to live Why not go to your friends as normal,on the way back and just before you reach the stairs ring your OH.Have him talk to you Untill you reach your door.That way you'll feel confident on your way up and if anything should happen your OH can intervene This guy is a bully,don't let him win.Be safe xx

Absolutely! That's it exactly. That is life. Failure to tolerate others (and not just people) invokes misery all around, doesn't it?

You're right, but it's one thing to think that, quite another to face going up the stairs knowing he's about to launch. My husband's not exactly a confrontational person either. He is, at least, tall, but he's about as aggressive as a teapot.

My husband is like that, I once remember him standing behind me when our neighbour kicked off

wouldn't encourage confrontation or aggression,merely saying he might be less likely to start anything if he knows your OH is seconds away

Don't think so. He's been perfectly happy to yell at both of us so far.

I wish you well(( hugs))

Well, one of the kids came up to ask whether we mightn't have some of their post, as they haven't been getting any (must have just moved in then). She was completely normal and nice. The kids are both old enough to be taken on their own merit, so maybe we might get some civility through them? Maybe-- I'm keeping the nice and civil options wide open.

(edit: we don't have anyone else's post!)

Maybe that was just an excuse to get to talk to you perhaps??
They may well be extremely embarrassed by their father's behaviour and want to show you it isn't them
I remember when I was married to an alky, my kids were soooo very embarrassed when he kicked off because of course they get teased and tormented at school over it.

My thoughts exactly. I really don't understand why some people get so 'exercised' about how other people or their animals live their lives. It's all stress, stress, stress, these days it seems.

In Cyprus - dogs bark all night. Some bark all day too. The general attitude is 'they are dogs and dogs bark'.

I cope with dogs barking all night by turning my telly up LOUD lol! Same thing I do if neighbours have loud music or anything else - I drown it out.