When my brother did jury service he was in a similar case, a girl was 16 and only just coming forward, not enough evidence, the b*****d got free and my brother was gutted, there was nothing they could do even as the jury as there was just not enough evidence to put him away, that poor girl, not only her life destroyed but knowing he was free to do it to others, he had kids too evidently.

isnt is just, yet the one person who I personally would pick out as being a bit weird in this family, it isnt them its the one you would nevr suspect 0 the life and soul !! horrid

makes you scared to let your kids out of your sight basically.

On the other side of the coin I also have a pal who's brother was dragged through the courts being accused of doing something to a boy (he was in charge of a boys brigade) when he didn't, the family accusing him were scum for want of a better word, they wanted to do it for a settlement but luckily they were seen through. This ruined my pal's brother's life, he will always avoid children now and ignore them if they speak to him, never lets his own kids have pals over e.t.c. Very sad.

How awful, Vicki.

I sympathise completely. There would be no compassion for anyone who hurt my baby.

Tried to give you reppies but it wont let me.

My family has recently been ripped apart by someone and I would have never believed it could happen. It has made me realise that the only people who I can trust are my OH and my boys..............................

Sorry to pick on your post CC and I am not really "picking" honest

The point is that is exactly the point when most paedophiles strike when they have you, the parent's, FULL and unconditional support. It is extremely unlikely a paedophile will strike (unless a random attack - whereby there is usually a history of sexual deviance or violent sexual behaviourdisplays prior to the "attack") when they have little half or even 3/4 trust, in fact I would stick my neck out here and say, apart from the random stranger attacks, the percentage of crimes committed by individuals not trusted100% by the parents would be very very small.

CC I know you go on to say that, and I paraphrase here, you may neverreally know someone and I think that is the nail being hit on the head.....the only person you ever really know is yourself and that is a sad fact of human nature....or maybe I am justcynical

I also see you go on to say that you are wary of individuals outside the trusted circle and I am not for a minute saying your trusted circle is not a safe one but Vicki, and Vicki please tell me if you are offended by this comment, I am sure trusted her partner 100% as do many other mothers and fathers who go through this awful situation.

Vicki my heart goes out to you and its prob no comfort at all but it is extremely common, in my experience for children(be they kids or adults) to blame the non abusive partner Huge hugs hun

Thanks Lynne x

In my opinion, you should trust your instincts, and keep watching.... your peace of mind is worth so much more than even the slightest sense of guilt you have for doing it.

Sorry to hear this, Kel. False accusations of this nature have a way of totally ruining lives.....

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I read through this thread with interest, because of the nature/nurture element; but it saddened me to read that so many of you (myself included) have been affected.

What would I see done? I'd have them under a microscope to find out why. Just like bacteria were analysed and eventually the treatment penicillin discovered.

Divorced from all emotion, unless you know why a thing behaves as it does you can't find out if there is "cure" or even if there is not a "cure"

Would I take the chance of freeing a convicted paedophile? No I would not.
They would be in prison for the rest of their days, so they would never have contact with children again.

Inside prison I would have them analysed mentally, physically, genetically - to further our knowledge -in the hope we might at some point identify one before they strike.