Can I be bothered with a new man?

Had lunch with a new man today, it was the first time we had met face to face, he found my details on a dating website that I abandoned months ago and we've been exchanging emails, pics etc.
He is extremely presentable, has a lovely smile, talked for Ireland but I put that down to nerves. Over lunch (which he insisted on paying for) we found we had a lot more in common than first thought, also he's a dog person (essential) and doesn't live too far away. He is keen for us to meet up again if I am agreeable, BUT ...... I don't know if I can be bothered which is a tad unusual for me!
I suppose being on my own for four years (and in a marriage where we were strangers for years before that) I've got into a routine, I don't even know what to suggest for a date boy am I out of practice!
He seems to be a nice guy but I kept feeling like I needed to press the brake pedal rather hard. He even said he would come with me to a dog show sometime, my gut feeling was that he would be encroaching on my territory!
Am I mad or what??????

If you like him and he likes dallies...go for it girl.

Deccy if you like him meet again on your terms, I was alone for a long time and had got into a rut of mornings kids, dog, work, dog, kids dog, me time, it is a rut not routine, have a go, take a chance, what have you got to loose xx

Go for it, but take your time,and enjoy youself

read your thread......not sure what to say as you don't come across as being that keen.
But whatever you decide good luck xxxxxxxxxxxx

I don't think you're mad at all, Gill. Like you say, you've been living on your own for 4 years. It's difficult to give up what has become a "comfortable" (and I use that word loosely) routine.

However, if this guy is willing to meet on your terms, and to take it slow, then you have to ask yourself, "what have I got to lose?"

He could be a pleasant distraction.

Is he any good at DIY ?

I was on my own for a long time before I met OH. I could never picture myself as anything but single and we've been together 10 years in October and married 8 next month. I had exactly the same doubts as you but sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith

Gill, i know exactly what you mean, i have been on my own for almost 6 years and i feel a bit like you.

I think you should take it slow and just see how it goes, explain to him how you feel (not the "you can't be bothered" bit though )

If he is a decent guy he will understand and be happy to take it at your pace, if not, well, then he's not worth your time anyway. You could be letting a good thing slip through your fingers, look at him as a friend rather than as a potential partner and take it from there, you never know

GO FOR IT HUN!!!!!

lol - I've been on my own for nearly 8 years hun, so i know what you mean!!

Go for it - have some fun!!!!

i think you will not know unless you give it a try ....stubborn is a lonely life being independant is also a lonely life
personally i don;t think you like being lonely ...