VV that is exactly what happened to me. I had to do the pregnancy test prior to starting the drug.It cam back negative but something made me do another a week later it was positive.......

I think Neil and I have got some talking to do, but wouldn't it be lovely if it happened during our first wedding anniversary week away in the lakes

ok, so i had Jesse when i was 30. never ever wanted kids, met hubby and said to him don't spend every day trying to talk me into having kids, i didn't want them. however it hit me that i wasn't going to get any younger and i may not be able to get pregnant and then what if i really really wanted a child, what then? i didn't want a future that meant my whole life would be focused completely on getting pregnant and the ups and downs of fertility treatment if i left it too late.... and the heartache.
decision was made. when i did the test i was devastated because it all became real. to this day i still cannot believe i was pregnant and had a baby, it makes me laugh as my son, Jesse is nearly five now. and he is a little superstar.

i don't think the time is ever right and you always find a way to cope financially. i think the "decision" to have a baby is harder than the actual outcome. once pregnant you just plan for the future....

It is amazing how many women seem to get preggers while on holiday (me included!)

It makes me very cross, and upset TBH.

If I stop work to have a baby, I would only be able to stay off for 18 weeks (amount of time I get full pay). I'd then have to come back to work full time, and find about £600-700 a month extra for full time child care. It would cost me £183 a week to put my child in the nursery/pre-school at work (and that's discounted), that's approx £8700 a year (excluding my work hols) for child care.

If I'm not working full time, then the mortgage doesn't get paid. OH's wages pay for every other expense we incur (bills, car, food, doogs, insurance etc). My wage only pays the mortgage (and OH earns nearly 3x what I do).

At the moment, I can't see a way to do it. I don't really want to have a baby and then put them in full-time child-care - what's the point of having a baby? Plus there's the fact that I'd have to find an extra £200 a week for the child care. Or I have a baby, and get into more debt etc as we can't afford the bills...

We're economising as it is, as money is short. We're budgeting for absolutely everything, and selling as much stuff as we can to make money, and we can't cut down any more. I just don't see how we can get out of it.

I appreciate that you don't need to spend £££'s to have a child, and I wouldn't anyway! I'm happy with hand-me-downs and second hand stuff, and I'm happy to use reuseable nappies etc as well. There is always loads of baby stuff in the free-ads at work, so I know I could pick up the essentials easily.

The only little bit of hope I've got is that there is a very slim chance of a promotion in the next 18-24 months, which would mean an ease in the financial pressure and the ability to save up a bit of money.

OH has also had the idea that rather than going properly part time, we can both compress our hours so that we both work 4 days a week (but still the same number of hours), and that my mum could have the baby once a week, meaning we only have to find the money for 2 days childcare a week... which sounds OK, until I think of fitting in 7 extra hours of work into 4 days (and a baby!!)

Phew, OK, rant over. I hate thinking about it TBH, but it has to be done eventually!