Sorry Suze but it all sound a bit iffy to me. Have you both discussed that you want to get married, have you talked about it at all. Surely if he was serious you would have had a discussion about it, not just him bidding on a ring for you. There is a big difference between being good friends and actually wanting to get married.

whats the saying *marry in haste repent at leisure*
if you love him, can be with him 24/7 and not get on each others nerves,then marry him, but if theres anything that niggles you now. dont do it, as those niggles get bigger. er ive got an ex. but been with my OH for 11 yrs been married 8 yrs, and had 3 disagreements in 11 yrs.
but wish you luck in what ever u decide.

well, his mums away next month for 2 weeks, im staying with him for most of it,,so im sure that will tell us if it woould work
i am a firm believer in 'live for today' ive had too many people die around me recently, and realised , life really is too short,,,, being this or whatever,,,,

like my mum wants to go spain to live,, i dont want to go at the moment, or ever iduno,, but anyhow i told her to just go,,, i'll deal with things,, i'll have the dogs, get ajob etc,,, i dont mind,, im living my life she should go enjoy hers,, i have the rest of my life for screw up ~(lol), she dosent have as long kleft as me,,,

so yeah,,,

seriously suze...

its not something to be done on a whim...

when you kiss him do you feel as though you two are the only ones in the world?

when you cry do his arms around you make you feel safe?

can you see yourself helping to dress him when he is 80?

when everything has gone Ti*s up will he be by your sided no matter what happens?

when its lashing down outside, and there is nothing to do and you are both sooo bored, can you still make each other laugh?

do you ever want to raise your children with this man?

if yes, then go for it....

if you hesitate then dont do it...dont settle for second best...

You sound unsure to me, theres something in your posts that makes me worry abit! cant put my finger on it!

Theres nothing wrong with a long Engagement though, youll get to know him then! Congrats.

At least SOMEONE (ie not me ) got proposed too!!!!!!

some things make me wonder, but atm im just going with the flow,,,

im not planning a wedding lol ,, nor do i intend to in the near fuure, imo it just feels like were dating and if im totall honest, he woulnd tbe mature enought to handle it i dont think within the next 5 years

and if im being relaly more honest,,, i think the age could cause issues..... purely becuase of where we both are in our lives..



now thats honesty....

in that case take it slowly...but you need to answer yes to be able to go ahead...otherwise yu would be lucky to get to your first anniversary!

make a joke of it if you didnt know whether he was serious but date him with a view to getting engaged ...

good luck

alex
xx

I don't think spending 2 weeks with him will make you know if you can spend your life with him.
It will be more like a bit of fun, or a holiday

No advice from this quarter Hun. I'm married for the second time, am with the right man................but spent 21 yrs with a wrong un.
Ever been to Hell for a visit

thats a great idea,, thanks alex!!



true true




well im supposed to be going out with him tonight.... what do i say/do???

"see how things go"

which is alll i intended anyhow - ..... but its allabout the moment -it was acas of ok..!????..