thats how I felt, but as her OH was an Usher made it even harder, I wished I had had the guts to say to her that if considered herself a mate then she would have been much more supportive of everything. It is supposed to be an honour to be a bridesmaid.....they should deserve the title I think.... Like you said its not cheap, I would think long and hard if I was you hun and consider asking your other better friend xx