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People can come up with very different stories, especially when they have time to talk to each other and decide on a story to tell to cover their own butts. I would be down at the police station giving my version of events with the friends that were with him to give their side of events also, even if you didnt want to persue it, so it is on record and if the police don't take pictures, I would be seeing a doctor to document that also, as it sounds like very disturbing behaviour these people displayed.

I agree, and without evidence , it will become a he said , she said scenario, witnesses can see different things, and will relay different stories, so its always best to do as you suggest, first, get evidence.

It just feels like it constantly one thing on top of the other…

I tried to get him to let me take photos today, but he wouldn’t. he just wants to forget about the whole thing, and doesn’t want it to go any further. He doubts anyone else will take it further, and considering the other ones were the ones beating him up, he thinks they will just drop it.

The thing that scares me, is that they weren’t young… well, not young like we are. he said a few looked like they were in their late 40s and the rest were late 20s… the only young ones was the girl, and her female friends (who didnt take part in it)

Im feeling a bit better today, but he is feeling worse. his back is really sore from falling down the stairs, and he thinks he has a concussion

Thanks, he wont let me takes pics but the place where the party was, has CCTV so if it does get taken further they can check it on that… they wont be able to see what injuries he received but they can see what happened.

The police were called, not sure who called them though. might have been the staff, or other people who were in the party. He wishes he didn’t have to lay a finger on her, but she hit him 3 times so he shouldn’t have to just stand there and take. He has the right to defend himself. He hates men who hit women, and has never once hit me (apart from play fighting lol) and I never fear that he could hit me, coz I know he wont. But I think he was entitled to push her away, and if I had been there she would have got a punch, wrong I know, but I would never stand by and watch someone hurt him. there is CCTV in the place so if it does go further (don’t think it will) there is that to back up his side.

I wish he felt better today, but he actually feels worse

Joe just went coz his friend said it was ok, if they had gone up and civilly said they weren’t welcome, then they would have left. Going in heavy handed is completely wrong of them, and not the way to deal with the situation.

Ive tried to get him to go to the docs (worried about the concussion) but he never goes im working on it though, coz he is in a lot of pain with his head and back.

I hate that women think they can hit and man and not expect a reaction too, its so unfair. His friend was actually beaten up and stabbed a few years ago, now if anyone shows the slightest sign of aggression, he will lash out (psychologically he is very scarred) and he even admitted to joe that if that happened to him, he would have hit her. I don’t think its ever right to hit someone, but why can she hit him 3 times and then joe is the bad guy for just pushing her away from him! it makes me so mad, if she had been a guy, and joe hit him, then he would be no where need as much as a bad guy coz it would be a guy he hit.

I doubt they would have put him in a van, but that kind of thing does happen. Its one of those things where you think it would never happen to you… but it happens to someone, so the thought that could be joe terrifies the life out of me. im glad the police arrived when they did, coz if not it could have been worse…

The party was in a kind of pub/hotel/restaurant place, and they have a function room for parties and weddings. They have CCTV there so if the police look at it, they can see that joe didn’t do anything but defend himself.

They probably should have left, but if someone went up and explained they weren’t welcome then they would have left. but they hadn’t done anything wrong, so didn’t think it would be so hostile. He even told me today, that there was a wee boy around 7 or 8 playing with a balloon, and he started a game with joe where they were hitting the balloon to each other.

They were standing in a kind of square shape (the girl, joe and his 2 friends) so joe was at a kind of right angle to her (and she was right next to him), so that’s how she hit the back of his head and neck. Then he turned his head the opposite way to her (so like a 180 degree angle) and so while he wasn’t looking punched his face. not sure if that makes sense, difficult to explain lol.

The police must have been called, but not sure who called them. probably people who work there, or maybe others from the party.

The bit about the van is what they said… they were basically saying that a van would go down, take him away and kill him . I know the chances of that are very slim, but some people do sick things like that, and its one of those ‘it wont happen to me’ situations.

They might have been acting in defence of her, but she hit him 3 times so he had the right to defend himself too. same as his mates jumped into the fight to try and get them off him, with such an out number though they would never have been able to.

I don’t think anything will come of it, sadly this happens all the time around here so it’s a common occurrence.

when i was on Jury, The case was a ABH case, no witnessess & the "victim" went to the hospital & police 3 days later. If he just goes to the police now & says he wants to proscute then they will

I'm sorry but if there is CCTV evidence I think he has a responsibility to report it. If it really went the way he said it did then there is evidence now to prove that and catching these people might go towards helping to stop it happening to other people, either by them or by fear of getting caught generally.

He needs to report it ASAP!

I have to agree , for someone to be beaten up to such an extent, has a duty to report it..specially as there is CCTV evidence to back it up.

If as Pidge says, the events went the way your BF says, and he was only defending himself, he will have a case (with the footage) to back him up.

Laura xx .

im trying to talk him into this, and to go to the doctors, but he just wants to forget it. we have seen this happen too much to other people, both who we dont know and who we do, and it never goes further than the attacker spending a night in a cell. i know if he persues it further, the police will have to take it further but its seen as such a common thing to happen now. he also doesnt hold much trust in the police sadly, like many people these days.

it's so hard isn't it and i can understand him saying that he just wants to leave it now. it is just such a shame that he holds so little faith in the police but i guess if he's seen similar things happen with little or no repercussion, then it would be pointless to go further.

trouble is the more more people that do nothing means nothing will get done. hugs to you both lauren. xxxxxxxx