i agree with you hun as i have been there and done that you word it so well thank you

TBH it depends on how mature the child is, my stepdaughter for example, was a very mature girl at 6, however her half brother at the same age was very immature. He only found out from his mother that my OH was not his father when he was 10 and even then he acted out.

If she is relatively mature for her age she may handle it better, but I really would consider waiting a couple of years till she understands how things work a bit better.

I know my son would not understand if those were our circumstances, he barely understood that Granda Sandy had died. But there again he is a year behind in maturity etc.