HUGE favour needed - I hope someone can help

I need to go away... I don't have any holidays at the moment so not too soon but in the new year I need to take Takara away with me for a week, maybe.

Takara's got really, really nervous and I'm genuinely worried about her. I'm concerned that this is the effect of Eddy's nervous aggression rubbing off on Takara so I think we need to go away and spend some time together, building her confidence and just spending time together, getting her to trust me and meeting friendly dogs.

The thing is, we need to be alone - I can't go and visit my grandparents because we went before and Takara spent the whole weekend trying to kill their dog.

The other catch - I have no money. If anyone is kind enough to offer us some accomodation at very low cost I'd be so, so grateful - or if you're going away and need a house sitter maybe (provided you don't have nervous cats - cos T thinks cats are great fun).

I really need this break with her before I completely lose her, I'm so worried about her and we need time away from the usual family dynamics and Eddy's problems.

I don't know when this will be but if anyone can help we'd be most grateful.

Thank you.

Sorry babes i wish i could help but you'd get no peace here and neither would my kittens by the sound of it. Wish i could help you out. Hope you find something suitale soon xx

I wish we still had the caravan in Blair Atholl but alas no more. Hope you get fixed up though.

I can understand you wanting to get away from everything for Takara, but things will just be the same again on your return.

Surely it would be better to deal with Eddy's nervous aggression first and have a happy family environment. Surely socialization and training should be the first port of call for Eddy.

How far do you want to travel and do your dogs have pet passports, because I've got a friend who's got a holiday home in France I could ask for you.

We can offer you a room but we do have dogs they are very social and might bring her out of herself,as Ceaser Malan would say a great benefit to a nervous dog is a balanced stable pack!Pm me if i can help you?

Awwwww, sorry cant help you thee,

I understand you feeling you need to get away, but it is not going to solve your problems, the aggression (nervous ) is still going to be there when you return home, and you will still have 2 dogs who have these problems to deal with....the only think you will accomplish by going away with her, is a little rest bite time, which you sound like you need.

Cant you find a recommended behaviourist in your area, who can come and see both dogs in their own environment, and will be able to work on a one to one basis with you and your 2.

Hope you can sort it soon......you seen so low

Wish i could help hun, but things as they are here and Lady being an aggressive nervous bitch im afraid all hell would let loose sorry mate
I really hope things turn out ok as you sound as though you really need a break , fingers crosssed someone can help hun, take care xxdk

we're going away in may and your welcome to stop here then if you want?

will get thinking cap on about eddy see if i can think of anything to help xx

Thanks guys

Eddy's aggression is a lot better than it was when I got him but I got him from dalmatian welfare being told he was good with other dogs - this was a priority because I don't have the physical fitness to walk them separately.

When he came to us aggressive, I resocialised him and retrained him so he now sits and watches me as other dogs go by - unfortunately, during his resocialisation he was attacked twice and I don't feel I can trust him with certain dogs so the key is management as much as anything else.
However, Takara was always there and Eddy's nervousness has clearly rubbed off on her - and now that he's a lot better, she's worse.

Eddy still needs management and Takara is far better if let off the lead to avoid the approaching dog or say hi - whatever she is comfortable with so walks are pretty comfortable with my keeping Eddy close to me when dogs come by and Takara choosing what to do herself - be it, say hello or avoid the other dog.

I am doing my best to walk them separately but I am so tired, stressed and not very well that they're picking up on it even when walked separately.

I seem to be in a no win situation, I have nobody who can walk one of them for me, I have to take them both whether it's together or separate so have to control them both when out, I can't pay a dog walker and even if I could I'm so paranoid about letting them go with someone I don't know too well.

I had thought that I'd take them together to the park they're happy in in a morning and then take T on her own in an afternoon as Eddy is almost 13 now and although he loves his walks, I figured they weren't as important to him but he began piling on weight and he loves his walks too much.

The last time I was on anti depressants was so I didn't upset my dogs and it looks like I've got to go back and ask to go back on them! I'm too stressed to control them properly

The reason I wanted to go without Eddy was so that I could focus on Takara and not have them both to control - he does occasionally still bark when she's playing with another dog, which puts her off but in general he's improved vastly.

Eddy was a completely different dog to the dog that he is now babe, you've done a wonderful job with him, I think getting away would be the best idea in the world, for nothing else, your own sanity, wish I could come with you lol! xx