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Originally Posted by
Vicki
I'm going to do the same too, Aitch - take a leaf out of your mum's book and leave naff-all. Anything left, then Blue Cross can have it, and the humans can beggar off.
Huge hugs honey........ I know who one of them is, and I don't blame you for being angry
x0x0x
So are we Vicki, but it's the local dog's home that's getting all ours!
Then you'll know exactly what I'm dealing with here won'tcha! At least now they know there's nothing, then they can only expect exactly that!
Originally Posted by
Losos
My ambition is to die
not only leaving zilch but I would like to have a
huge tax bill for the inland revenue and the hangers on to sort out
I think I can do the first
but the second will require precision timing which I'm not too good at
I'm sorry you're having these problems with people suddenly appearing when they've not made contact for years. It just adds to the heartache. We had a little of this when my father died but not to the extent you've described. I feel sorry for you 'cos sometimes
the only solution is a punch on the nose which of course you can't do, or can you
If you wish for it enough H, it'll happen don't worry,just as long as you're the last of the good ones to go of course, you don't want to be lumbering any of them with a huge tax demand do ya!!!!
Originally Posted by
Dale's mum
Oh Helena. I was so sorry to read this.
Losing a parent is one of the hardest things, especially when you had been so close to her.
As time passes you'll find it easier to remember the happier times but for now take care of yourself. xx
Thanks Dale's mum, it's very hard indeed, and the times I prepared and prepared myself for this, nothing could have hit me any harder than when it actually came
Well, all sorted! The registrar's went smoothly I had all the documents she needed, and thank God I had her marraige certificates too, to know some things I just wouldn't have known, the place of birth was quite a long one in Polish! Went to the care home and got that lovely dress, and her teeth Lol! which I've been carrying around in my handbag ever since!!! I dressed up very smart this morning too, just because mum would have liked that, she always looked so very smart herself, and I just wanted to do it for some strange reason, even put on the heels for her!
I was doing exceptionally well, my friend couldn't believe how efficient, calm and collected I was until....... we were at the Funeral Director's and he just happened to ask me "and you are your mother's daughter" Well, that just did it for me, I wailed and wailed and got hugged lots! You see, I can remember from my very early days, wherever we went, mum would always drag me out of the crowd and say with great pride "and this is my daughter" and it just choked me right up I can tell ya! We managed to get on with all the arrangements, so job done, and I need him to do as much as possible coz I told him I don't want the whole World ringing me up to ask me this, that and the other coz I just can't cope at the moment, she he said he will. I chose a gorgeous purple and white "MUM" flowers and although she didn't want any, she's having them, but I'm sure she'll let me off this time. I have waited to get a very special Father that I wanted to do the small service, and he can't do it until next Tuesday at 10.20, so that's my birthday well out of the way and it will give the others time to get here and get organised from abroad.
I have made amends with them when I gave them the funeral date, I apologised for venting off in my state of anger yesterday, because quite honestly, mum wouldn't want me to be like that with them, and this is her day afterall, so I will be as civil as possible in the full knowledge that mum will be happy and after that day I will never have to clap eyes on them ever again, that's the way I look at it now. They know the score now regarding the estate, they can see the will, see they're not getting a mention and that will be that (I was gonna put something else there but thought better of it! Lol!)
Feel heeps better now I've got everything organised, I've just got to get Dave a nice pair of black trousers and shoes and we can give her the send off she deserves. I've chosen Moon River by the Mancinni Orchestra, Tony Bennett singing For the Good Life and Perry Como singing For the Good Times which I know she loved, but of course, they too, will bring back such happy memories for me when she was partying like mad every night!!!!!
My two favourite Poems too, All is Well (so apt for me and mum) and Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep! All so lovely for such a lovely woman!
Feeling good now! Thanks all.xxxxxx You've helped me get here in one piece.xxxxxxxxxx