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Location: Birmingham UK
Joined: Nov 2007
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Annoyed with my sister
As some of you may know, my Mother who is 87 yrs young..had a fall on 6th June, which had to be treated at hospital, her arm has 12 butterfly sutres and the bruising to her head is just going down. A District Nurse is coming in every other day to change dressings and it will be weeks before Mom can use her arm fully, plus she is in a lot of pain with it at the moment.
On the day the accident happened, my sister rang me and told me that her Husband had taken photo's of the missing slab which mom fell over, there was no warnings left out by the council to say it was missing and that it had been like that for weeks. I suggested that they rang a claims company to see if Mom could claim anything as she had been badly hurt, which my sister agreed to doing.
Yesterday, I happened to ask Mom if anyone had been in touch with her, 'Oh! no, Ann say's not to bother, as even if I won I would have thousands to pay towards the costs' I spent quite a time trying to explain how it works but as I am sure you will be aware a 87yr Old doesn't always understand how these things work. So I gave Mom a number to give to my sister to ring (as they are in Lincoln and I'm in Birmingham) to make enqiries.
Just spoken to Mom again today to see how things are, and she has told me that when she saw my sister yesterday, my sister refused to make any calls on her behalf as she doesn't want to get involved
I admit my sister lost her job a number of years ago, and at the time went to a independant Solicitor to see if she could get the firm done, they went ahead and she lost, but there were a number of ?????? marks about her behaviour at work surrounding her performance with work load etc., and she ended up having to pay the Solicitor his costs. Which we all know would of been the case.
She is so bitter about Solicitors now that she has given my Mom a load of worry over making a claim, by telling her that once she gets any money they will send her an invoice for twice as much back....which my Mom panicked over and said 'ok I'll leave it then'
I've taken it up on her behalf, now Mom is worrying becuase Ann is annoyed that she is going ahead with it.
I've just spoken to my sister and asked her for the photo's of the missing slab, which the Claims people want...she's just said, Yes I'll send them to you...if I can get the film developed as I am very busy at the moment
I really don't understand my sister at all, I am struggling to understand why she is being like this.
All she talks about is her dog.......which is her absolute life....and how hard things are for them.
Bearing in mind they have a huge bungalow, no morgage, she is retired and he has a little job at the garden centre.
They own such a beautiful place and yet Mom is in the next village in a council bungalow which is a quarter of the size of my sister's, they only take her shopping on a Friday, and see her Monday night (well my sister does as her husabnd is a the pub) and that's it. Mom pays them £25.00 per week for that.
I am so angry but Mom is so dependant on them for shopping and company. The rest of the week Mom is on her own doing her own housework, gardening etc., I wish Mom had never left Birmingham 6 years ago to live near them, but at the time they really encouraged her to do so. Now I think they are fed up with her with regards to having to put up with her heart probs, falls etc., Mom can not move back here as she couldn't take the stress. I feel so frusrated.
Mom has said ....'I want you to go ahead with the claim, but Ann is so angry about it'.........why?????????????????