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Originally Posted by
Emma
Something just doesn't sound right, through reading it all, it gave me the creeps, I kept looking to see if there was something that made me feel better, but to no avail, and he is not my b/f
First off I think I watch too much TV, it reminded me of Desperate Housewives then Harpers Island
It all sounds a bit off kilter really, who goes to an island with some old lady they have seen from time to time, for 10days for no specific purpose??
I am trying to think of the good things in this but really there are none. Your b/f sounds very molly coddled but his own mum, who doesn't have a problem with the situation (I find that weird, as if I told either of my parents, I was doing what he was but with a man (being the older, rich, eccentric person) they would lose it and I would get a lecture not my mum staying with me at the hotel.
This woman could be harmless and more than likely is, she may not see money as anything but endless so not having a problem with it. But it just sounds so weird and gives me the creeps.
I know you don't want to be controlling but seriously would he be okay if the shoe was on the other foot?? I know my OH wouldn't be, if it was me going and vice versa.
He is young, got the male attitude of 'it will be alright' (I know I am generalising) and if things do hit the fan, he wouldn't see it coming.
Sorry still creepy, I hope these 10days go fast, and he gets mobile reception, so you can have contact with him.
Now most of us have got you worried with our different scenario's I think you do need to draw a line at some point with it as you don't sound comfortable at all with it and that is not been controlling that is just being very concerned, maybe see what happens when he comes back and if there are any more holidays planned with this woman, that is when it needs to happen.
Thank you so much, I totally feel the same. You are so right, no, he would HATE it if it were me and the shoe was on the other foot, he'd be kicking and screaming and everything. I did make it clear I NEVER wanted him to go but seeing as it was all arranged before we started seeing each other and we haven't been together all that long (5/6 months) then I didn't feel justified to say ABSOLUTELY NO, YOU ARE NOT GOING. But rest assured, he isn't bloody going again, least not on his own and i'm not even comfortable at going but we will see how this trip goes. If he doesn't have mobile signal I will be on here everyday driving you all insane.
Everything you said is totally right, his mum totally mollycoddling him but I think the reason she is ok is because this is an older woman who worked in a church, she's not the sharpest tool in the box, she sees me as a threat of taking away her little boy, she doesn't see this woman that way so it's all ok.
And yes, he does have that young male attitude which really worries me and he is very naive to boot, he's clueless.
Hmmmmm, feel a bit sick this morning, spoke to him a wee while ago, he's in the airport now.