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Location: South East UK
Joined: Mar 2005
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Oh dear, methinks he is now going for the financial blow by the sounds of it (3 years living together, he might have some claim on the house now as your live in partner), why oh why didn't you change those locks 3 days ago, I bet you wish you had!!! Quite honestly, I think this is a difficult situation now because that HAS been his address for the past 3 years,and just like tenants who can't just be ""thrown out" I don't think he can either
Now that he's back IN there of course. He's obviously found this out probably been down the citizen's advice maybe? Oh dear this could get messy for you and end up a real nightmare, you really should have done something the minute he walked out imo, but you didn't, so now that you've got the lock, you can assess the situation when he's back where you live, and if you feel this is the way he's going on this, then send him out for a take-away tonight, change the locks, and then let HIM be the one to take you to court for his rights, that's what I'd do!
Even though you weren't married, 3 years is a long time to share your house with somebody, and the courts would look at it like that too, and whether he would actually gain some financial benefit for the priveledge will be up to the court if he takes it there. Whether the police would be interested I don't know because they will ask the questions "has he threatened you?" blah, blah,blah, and if he hasn't, and he says he's been living there with you for the past 3 years but you've decided you want him out, then quite honestly, I don't think they'd do it, they'd just turn round to you and say this is a civil matter, you'll have to sort it out in court and leave him there with you, so that's something to be aware of if you ring them, maybe you'll have to tell some porkies if you want him out???!!
Oh I've been here myself many moons ago, but thankfully, I had some "friends" who sorted the bloke out for me, at a price, so I had no further trouble, maybe you've got some friends like that especially where you live!!!!
I hope you come up with a plan, but most of all, I hope somebody can go home with you tonight, see how the land lies, keep calm and always have a Plan B! This could be a nightmare I'm afraid, coz I'm sure he's been somewhere and found out you can't just throw him out if he's not willing to go, he's actually a sitting tenant, unless you can prove otherwise by rent books etc maybe?? Good luck. If he's not the violent type, then you're ok, but if he IS, then call in at the police station on your way home and get a nice young man from there to go home with you, and they will!