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Originally Posted by
SLB
I dont encourage it, I will correct it. The only people the dogs are allowed to bark at are the ones behind the door, Louie will only bark for several seconds then calm down and it's only in the house, never outdoors, he's only ever been reactive outdoors by loud noises and children and even then he runs behind me and hides, although now he's grown a little - his confidence has grown and he has become a little less reactive of things and is quite a confident little boy.
Benjie however - is a work in progress, as I said before he was allowed to do all this guarding and reacting to everything, which is being dealt with as he will be living with us.
Sorry hun - read your post as reactivity when out and about. I think most dogs bark at the door. I know mine do, but quieten down when told. Often the dogs let me know there's someone at the door when I haven't heard it and it lets other people outside know not to try and walk straight in!
Originally Posted by
Lynn
I make no excuses for Ollie's behavior I and the family deal with it.
People coming to the house I know he will re-act to I deal with it putting him in the kitchen if they do not need to be there if they do he is on a lead. We do try to allow him to make friends if he wants but if he doesn't he is kept under control at all times less stressful for all.
When out we try not to take him places anymore where there are crowds we walk him places we know are quiet or people are going to stop and chat but not want to hug and kiss or touch him he hates this from strangers and people he is not comfortable with. We still to this day do not know why he is the way is with some people and not others the same with some dogs.
We keep him safe from trouble we love him dearly he loves us dearly and will tolerate a lot from us and the Grandchildren. We know his downfalls and warn others of them so far in 41/2 years of having him from a puppy we have had no terrible frightening encounters so must be doing something right.
We do not make excuses for his behavior this is Ollie warts and all take him or leave him. I do feel though it is my responsibility to keep him safe and others and do everything in my power to do that. I stopped analysing him ages ago as it just made me worry about his behavior once I stopped worrying about it I felt a lot happier and I am sure Ollie did too.
Find this really refreshing, and nice I guess. I always feel like people judge me personally by the way my dogs behave, and I know that some people hold me personally responsible for any foibles my dogs may have. I almost feel, at times, like I have to say something to apologise for my dogs' behaviour (over-excited puppy greetings or else not wanting to know strangers and being worried, depending on which dog) as people get the **** if I don't 'acknowledge' their negative feelings about my dog.
Weird and I should probably get over it.
Originally Posted by
aerolor
From Vikki Ann's original post
So .... who here is of the vein there is a reason for dogs' behaviour and that is key to being able to approach it the right way and who believes a dog is a dog and behaviour is behaviour so you shouldn't 'make excuses' .... and who is your role model in this thinking?
I have no role model for my thinking, but I think there has to be a reason for a dog's behaviour - that reason can be based on temperament, instinct, adaption or learned. A dog is a dog and its behaviour is a dog's behaviour (not a human's) - I think it is important to make
allowances for the fact that a dog is a dog and dogs are continually trying to learn to adapt to living in a human environment and, unless they are living as feral dogs, they are dependent on humans for their needs. I don't know why we would need to excuse their behaviour - they are not trying to become humans.
Dogs have differing temperaments - some are naturally shy, some more aggressive or submissive than others - just as some are small, some are large and some inbetween. They are all different and it is up to humans to do our best to teach the puppy/dog what is expected of it, adapting how we teach it according to its needs. If it is not shown how to behave and learns it will not be successful in living in the human environment - some dogs will "fit" and suit a certain environment, others may have difficulties. Someone said "horses for courses" and I think this is especially true for dogs and people living together. What suits one set of circumstances and owner will not suit another and vice versa. I think we are lucky that we have so many breeds (and crossbreed types) to be able to find a dog to suit almost anyone who wishes to have a dog in their life.
So true!
I think many people think dogs should ALL do as they're told, when they're told and should be deft at dealing with everything about the human environment they live in. And if not, it's the owner's fault.
Never a bad dog, always a bad owner, as they say.