Hi Lauren,
There is loads of good info and advice on the thread here and it will take you ages to digest it. Firstly as someone not involved in the horrible situation you have been through, I think that people want to help you and are trying there best to get information and advice across in a post, you have been through a horrible experience and are emotionally charged so are a bit on edge and understandably might see things differently to how people intend thenmm to come across - thats the bad thing about forums, however the good thing is there is loads of support and advice
Ok, I will try and make this really concise. I agree with a lot of what has been said.
1) Get a collar - it may not have stopped the bite, but would have been your hand nt your face so although you would still have got a fright and been injured it would not be as severe as your face (I know I have been attacked on my face) so after the attack you will not be as wary as you are now, I gueess you may say you are not wary as it was so out of character but I know I am still wary if a dog comes to my face and thats 23 years after my attack. Subtle changes will happen you which can further confuse Jake - BUT you can work on this
2)Does EVERYONE in the house use the same commands? You may use "Down" meaning off but what about visitors, your family etc, would they ever say "oh Jake Sit DOWN" or "Jake go and Lie DOWN" It is bital that everyone uses the same commands ALL the time even visitors at this point in changing Jakes behaviour
3) Please stop picking Jake up at least for the foreseeable future, Picking up or attempting to be picked up now has a new set of circumstances surrounding it. It may well have been great up to now but fronm the time of the attack there is a new step in that process - the bite. It may well never happen again but that step is now a wee pathway in Jakes Brain. This is more significant if there is pain involved but is not to be dismissed even if no pain. Also the same goes for everyone in the family
4)You say you don't understand as picking up, tapping etc has always been tolerated, even liked up to the attack, I hope this does not come across as preaching or patronising but try to see it as similar to a young boy, he likes cuddles from his mum, he enjoys getting a kiss goodbye or a kiss hello from her but then 1 day he decides he is too old for that and shuns away from this he no longer likes it. Now I am not giving Jake human thought processes I am just using this as an analogy, to try to show that even with a complex(
) human brain the association or love of something can change so for Jake a similar thing could have happened
Also the tapping, I do not think for a minute you are beating Jake and I know you are not so please don't worry about that, again try to see it as association, soeone else explained it well, he now HAS to act on the 2nd not the FIRST command, so why not find out what the THIRD command will be - like your mum asks you do the dishes most times you will, one day you can't be bothered so she says you can't go out if you don't so off you go to do the dishes, the next time you take to long to start the dishes(or for Jake to get OFF) she says well you are not going out(you tap Jake), and the time after that if you don't do the dishes(Jake won't get off) she says you're not going out (you tapo Jake) One day you'll say "Fine I am not going out then"(Jake decides to ignore the tap)
Hopefully you see whaat I mean - the next time you may well do the dishes when asked (Jake may get off when asked) but 2 weeks later you might decide you can't be bothered (Jake decides to wait for the tap a he knows it will happen) Hope that makes sense
NILF is great everything is earned a game, a treat, a pat, even a meal - it can be as simple as sitting before getting a bowl of food but it has to be for EVERYTHING. Jake gets nothing for free (as the name suggests)
5)Don't want to dwell on this, but as you have mentioned in previous posts your own confidence in yourself has been shattered a bit just now, and this is not a criticism at all, but if you lack a wee bit of confidence in you Jake will to. Now, after what you have been through its natural for you to be feeling like this and the good news is you and Jake can work together to build confidence in each other but it has to start TODAY.
6)Get the vets to get this skin prob sorted, it may not be at the root of this event but you can bet that its dam annoying for him, I know you have been to the vet and tried really hard but INSIST that its tested, examined and sorted. Again your own lack of confidence amy lead you to accept what the vet says and the treatment suggested. Question it ask what else is available and when you help relkieve Jakes soreness you will gain confidence from that.
7)Formal training, classes, fun stuff all that will strengthen the bond. i know you and Jake have a good bond but the events ofthe last few days have changed that, it needs to be remoulded Love and cuddles is all well and good and great fun for both of you but you also need to introduce rules, boundaries and accepted behaivour.
Negative actions = being ignored - the worst "punishment" for a dog, being left in a room, back turned on them, no eye contact, being "pushed" away. (by pushed I don't mean flung on the floor but gently removing him from you etc. I would however suggest using the long line for this purpose to avoid any further possibility of biting (particularly at the minute.
Gee this was going to be concise
Sorry, you have so much to deal with and so much to try and take in and digest. Just remember that everyone wants to help you and Jake and we want to hear how you get on
Also everyone has different ways and means, but they are all based around consistency, Respect for owner from dog and for dog from owner, and trust,(I know you are working really hard to achieve all these things), you will get through this and you'll learn valuable lessons.
Take care and hugs