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Location: Ireland
Joined: May 2005
Posts: 3,922
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I live alone (apart from Deccy) it's 4 miles to the nearest shop, can't go in pubs alone as I am female, days can go by without seeing another human being. BUT I keep busy, in both mind and body. I am also up at 6.30, Deccy gets three good walks a day (that sees to the physical side) there is usually a load of chores to do but for "my time" I do something that appeals to me and uses my brain. Something I have started but not finished is my MSc degree. Just need to do the dissertation, but decided to write a book instead
but apart from the heavy stuff, I do a few puzzles or crosswords a day to keep my mind alert. When you get to my age that becomes quite important.
All this takes my mind off my precarious financial position; having lost my livelihood three months ago, there is no prospect of work in the foreseeable future so I have a fairly strong motivation to sort my life out!
I decided a while back that I didn't want to get involved in any relationship as this could muddy the waters and I would be doing things for the wrong reasons, which from previous experience always ends in tears. Mine.
I understand that you have many skills but what about hobbies that you could take further? Or some occupation that appeals to you with the added bonus of human contact in general?
I remember many years ago at one of the times where I felt that the world was against me and everyone hostile, someone on the radio said if any listeners were in that position, here was a good tip. Go out into the street however crabby you feel, and force yourself to smile at everyone you meet. This works particularly well if you are in a car in traffic. Before long, people smile back and guess what, having people smile at you actually makes you feel good!
I tried it, and it works although you really have to steel yourself. Maybe that is why I like living in Ireland, it's what everybody does, plus everyone waves as you drive by or asks how you are if they are walking. I think the psycology (sp?) is something along the lines of, "to get something you want you have to give it first" in other words, don't wait to be invited to a party - host one! Don't moan about something in the paper that you don't like - write the editor a letter! Discuss it on blogs! Organise an action group!
As a certain drinks advert says, do your thing.......