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Location: Central Scotland
Joined: Mar 2007
Posts: 353
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Hello Ian, my names Fay and lately I have been feeling just like you at times. I lost my job and became disabled all at the same timeand it really hit me hard. Now I was lucky as I have family to support me but you obviously have made a lot of good friends on Dogsey. We are all here for you to support you. Don't let this get you down. You have done nothing wrong except letting a carer become too friendly to the point where she forgot she was supposed to be proffessional. I was one of these carers and was also a care manager and it was always stressed that you do not give out personal details to any clients and now you have just found out why. I would have loved to take my job further at times because of the type of lovely people I looked after and it was difficult at times not to do so but that is human nature. Some people are more caring than others and find it hard to strike that balance. I had a client who ended her life looking on me as the daughter she never had and her son still contacts me now and then. That is after 4-5 years or more but he did so through my then boss. I also had a client who searched the phone book to get my details and then phoned my O.H. to either praise me to the high heavens or slag me to death depending on his mood of the day. You obviously like your carer and if you can keep it proffessional between you then there is no need to change her. Good carers are sometimes hard to come by but don't worry if you have to let her go. You explain to her superior and she should not get into trouble. She might just emphasise the need for rules. As for you carers husband, weeeeellll!!!!! what can I say. I can remember the days when my O.H. would be shouting down the phone when my bosses phoned asking me to do extras{all the time} TELL THEM TO B****R OFF
It can be hard. sorry if I have gone on a bit and maybe repeated what others have said but I can't emphasise enough you need your carers and you also need to seek help from whoever you feel most comfortable speaking to. you have made me realise I'm not as badly off as I thought I was. Thank you for that and good luck. My thoughts are with you but don't let it get you down so much there are lots of people who have needs like you and can't even ask for it :smt058 :smt058 :smt058 :smt058