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Location: England
Joined: Apr 2004
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Friend has died
Well the news was not unexpected as she was diagnosed with breast cancer a while ago and although she did "recover" she was hit again this year, finaly it moved to her liver, spine everywhere it seems. Her name is Joy and she was 42 years old. She had moved back home with her parents, when it got to much to live alone.
I've been to see her Mom Dad and brother who are all devestated, escpecially her brother who still lives with his Mom and Dad and was especially close to his sister. Giving her morphine and staying up through the nights with her. The McMillan nurses have been great as have the family. Her Nan is distraught
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and to make matters worse her dog, is just lying by the door of the garage door (they had converted into a room so she could be downstairs) crying and hasn't moved since the undertakers took her body away. It is pitiful- and upsetting nothing they do can console him at all. Her cat has being lying on her bed since she became bedridden and refuses to move even now and hisses/strikes out whenever anyone tries to move him too.
I used to walk Sal with her dog and still took him when she was poorly, but he was purely her dog always has been. We lookied an odd sight sometimes towards the end, me Joy (complete with drip) two dogs, and three cats my two and her one following behind.
Almost three weeks ago when she was very poorly I took a large bunch of roses and lillies round for her. She apparently cried (I couldn't go inI had this damned cold) when she got them, saying she could "smell" them she had already her Dad said lost her sense of smell.
Her brother is going to read the poem by Henry Scott Holland
DEATH IS NOTHING AT ALL
And they are playing "Always look on the bright side of life" by Monty Python on the way out of the church, and "Bring Me Sunshine" by Morecamm&Wise on the way in.
And in between the songs that meant something to them/her.
Delilah by Tom Jones (she is a great TJ fan)
Gypsies Tramps and Thieves by Cher (can still here her arriving anywhere and that blasting from the sterero/cd from her mini.)
And I'm sitting on Top Of the World by AL Jolson
So I'd just like to say "Give them the flowers in the living years" as the song says. And tonight tell your family/friends you love them.
Karen