|
Location: March, Cambridgeshire.
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 35,374
|
|
A day of mixed emotions yesterday with Mum.
Started off being frustrated, she has been having trouble getting some excess cash in her ISA not my brothers, and it is now in her current account again. I have had 3 frantic phone calls from her over the last two weeks regarding this and thought yesterday she was going to ring the bank when I got there and authorize them to speak to me so I could sort it out.
No she had forgotten, but she had remembered she needed me to sort out paying her House insurance she can no longer pay by cheque so I did the payment over the phone all automated she would never of coped and she now doesn't want the bank sorted, but I did sort out the third party mandate so I will be authorized in future to help her with her problems if they arise again. My eldest brother is also named on the account but if she rang him for help he would plead ignorance.
We then had the Hospital appointment which we told was over running by 1/2 an hour at 10 to 3 and her appointment was for 3pm not to bad I thought. Then we are told it is over running by an hour at 3.30pm, I went off on one. By this time Mum was looking very ill and I could see her face physically changing in front of me because of the pain I got her out of the wheel chair into an ordinary chair so she could rest her feet and stretch her legs a little by resting them on the foot plates of the wheelchair.
The Nurse kept saying everyone was in the same boat I then threw in I had to be back on Harlow by 5pm still no joy. So I kept moaning about Mum and the pain she was in and they couldn't expect her to sit there for another hour, eventually with their consent they moved her forward in front of the two patients before her. Who I thanked on the way out they could see the suffering she was enduring and we would of done the same for someone if the boot had been on the other foot.
By this time even the Nurse who had to help get her in and out of the chair for her weight check could see I was being serious about she could cope no longer I then have to get her back in and out of the car and it causes her so much pain and aggravation. When I wheeled her in even her consultant was shocked at how ill she looked. The nurse by now was very helpful and understanding and I also thanked her for putting herself out eventually.
He has upped the prednisilone for her saying it is the sarcoidosis that is causing the pain and that should help.
I must admit yesterday had me in tears on the way home and when I spoke to Gill in the evening and Gorden this morning. My phrase was she is dying from the feet upwards. I am also getting worried about her memory she has fantastic long term memory but her short term memory is rubbish she was confused about my birthday in a couple of weeks time and hadn't done my card as she normally would. I will be seeing her the next day Gill and I are taking her out for a short while as a treat so told her not to worry I can wait a day. Her words were I really must start taking an interest.
I apologized to Mum when we left the hospital for my outburst as I know it embarrasses her but I couldn't sit back and watch her suffer any more. For goodness she is 90 in May.
She will probably be better today she is at home and will be able to shuffle about if she gets uncomfortable or lie on the sofa or go to bed. It has really brought it home to me that she she is not as tuff as we all thought not now anyway.
She is still cooking her own dinner and doing light housework maybe this helps keep the pain at bay or take her mind off it, but I now know the thing keeping her alive is her brain.