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Location: Warwickshire
Joined: Mar 2005
Posts: 29
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Wow, thanks guys for all your support. Things haven't really got any better, I'm due to leave this weekend - with 5 dogs!! - to mums (she's been great but really doesn't have the room for us all!). I did seek legal advice, which terrified me initially but was quite a positive experience. She made me realise how unreasonably he had behaved during our time together (threatening to shoot himself for starters) which I was starting to try to forget about as I was more desperately worried about my future to the point I felt as though I'd stay and put up with no matter what. He's always had a major problem with me being more sociable than him, especially in the evenings and is very very jealous. I was very sociable and happy-go-lucky when we first got together, but young and naive so gave up my social life for him which destroyed my self-confidence, then I married him - was v low at the time, then a year on from that, my confidence grew, I was doing well with the dogs and he started acting ridiculously again to the point it destroyed us, he blames me for the breakdown though as I have had to lie on occasion just to meet up with girlfriends. It got to the point I was scared to go out because of his reaction but never wanted to be in because I felt so 'possessed'. Anyway now I feel totally wretched as I am the one having to leave the home that I love, being blamed for the breakdown (although I have had my suspicions confirmed he's having 'communications' with another woman, but I can't prove it) and he won't seek any proper advice himself so is denying me what I'm entitled to (none of it's enough to run a huge solicitors bill up for though). The next few weeks are going to be a complete nightmare and he's giving me a hard time for not getting gone quick enough at the same time suggesting it may be just what we need and that it's poss we may get back together one day!!!!
(He has tried it on in the last week or so - you can imagine the range of emotions all this makes you feel!). I have a possible solution to my housing prob but I won't be able to go about it yet because I know exactly what he'll think to it... A friend of both of ours, (male) but more mine, has offered to put me up (& dogs). I won't take him up on it because I know how it will look. I'm fed up of looking the bad one. Thank gawd for my wonderful dogs...
Sorry to rant on!