Thanks all, I just got back from the hospital. She's perky enough, they got a nice hot meal for me, so I fed her that, coz after midnight she will be on clear fluids only.
I saw the doc, lovely young doc, and he said they will decide and operate in the morning when the aneasthatist has decided whether they can or not, BUT, they have no option, because she has broken the big bone behind the elbow, it's split wide apart, and although they have put it in a cast, that's only to ease the pain slightly for her, they are going to have to pull it back together and wire it. He said it might work, it might not,and if it doesn't then they will have to operate AGAIN!!! OMG I thought, she would never survive two let alone the thought of one!!!
I asked him about the brain heammorhage and he was unaware of that, he only knew she had a stroke, but he didn't realise it was due to a heammorhage, but he said they can only do what they have to do, they can't just leave it like this, it's too far apart for it to knit back together in a cast!
They didn't have the care home phone number, only mine, and mum piped up with "don't bother to give them the care home number coz I'll be dead"!! Then she laughed!!! I didn't hear that bit, but Dave told me that's what she said!!!
I can only hope and pray she survives the op, but she said to me she's had enough, it's too much work to fix this one, it's too complicated for them (bless her!), and so they'll just have to let her go, but she said that's ok, coz she's ready. That makes me think she won't be putting up a fight like she did previously, so hopefully, she won't need to, they'll fix her all up and she'll be fine until the next fall, and that's all I can hope for.
I gave her a big kiss and cuddle after I finished feeding her, the nurses smiled over at me, so if she's not here when I visit tomorrow at 3pm at least I'll know it's what she wanted, and I'll have to deal with it. Hopefully, knowing her, she'll be propped up in bed with a big smile on her face when she sees me like she always has, and I can once again give her a big hug. Can't do anymore now. I've rung the home to keep them up to date, but in the circumstances, I'm glad they don't have their number actually, coz it's me who they need to contact whilst she's in there, I'm happier with that, than getting 2nd hand news from the care home, it's the way I want it now until she's safely back in their care.
I'm ok, Dave is propping me up yet again, he came with me even though I told him he shouldn't, I think he wanted to though, just in case, coz it's a bit of an unknown quanity when you're frail, 84 and have been through what she has of late.
Thanks again guys, always here in my hour of need!
I won't worry tonight, but tomorrow I will be until I can go there at 3pm, and hopefully I won't be getting a big shock when I get there. I wish I was as strong as my dear old mum