Something just doesn't sound right, through reading it all, it gave me the creeps, I kept looking to see if there was something that made me feel better, but to no avail, and he is not my b/f
First off I think I watch too much TV, it reminded me of Desperate Housewives then Harpers Island
It all sounds a bit off kilter really, who goes to an island with some old lady they have seen from time to time, for 10days for no specific purpose??
I am trying to think of the good things in this but really there are none. Your b/f sounds very molly coddled but his own mum, who doesn't have a problem with the situation (I find that weird, as if I told either of my parents, I was doing what he was but with a man (being the older, rich, eccentric person) they would lose it and I would get a lecture not my mum staying with me at the hotel.
This woman could be harmless and more than likely is, she may not see money as anything but endless so not having a problem with it. But it just sounds so weird and gives me the creeps.
I know you don't want to be controlling but seriously would he be okay if the shoe was on the other foot?? I know my OH wouldn't be, if it was me going and vice versa.
He is young, got the male attitude of 'it will be alright' (I know I am generalising) and if things do hit the fan, he wouldn't see it coming.
Sorry still creepy, I hope these 10days go fast, and he gets mobile reception, so you can have contact with him.
Now most of us have got you worried with our different scenario's I think you do need to draw a line at some point with it as you don't sound comfortable at all with it and that is not been controlling that is just being very concerned, maybe see what happens when he comes back and if there are any more holidays planned with this woman, that is when it needs to happen.

Right! Who knows someone who lives on sark?

no luck here ut really doesn't the end of the movie go and have a twist in it and the rescuer gets killed because the 'innocent' b/f was in on it


Now seriously I second Mishflynns idea

Kel, I wouldn't blame your OH about all this.

Looking at it from his point of view, he has a friend who he's known for 2 years through the church (longer than he's known you - although not as intimately (I hope!!). This friend, who has a partner of her own, has offered him the chance of a free holiday.

If I was him, I would've said yes, particularly if it was pretty much arranged before you two became seriously involved.

Try not to worry. I'm sure your OH knows right from wrong and if this woman does try anything, I am sure he will put a stop to it.

Once he's back you can help him decide what sort of contact he continues to have with her - whatever has or hasn't happened on the trip might make that easier.

try not to worry (afterall its too late now) im a terrible terrible wind up merchant...... but Really think we need daily updates

lets hope she gives him something VERY expensive, that he can Ebay & spend the money on u!

Thanks Steph, no don't be sorry it totally makes sense and sounds all so familiar, she's deff not all their this woman, anyone can see that. And he is too innocent, he doesn't realise and he is too trusting, there's noway i'd have gone anywhere with anyone like that no least a remote island in the middle of nowhere with limited outside contact eh?

I think when he gets back i'll need to make it clear i'm totally not happy about him going again. I asked him why I was never invited and he just kept changing the subject so I wonder if he'd asked and she'd said no?!?!?!

Perhaps the B/F is Famous!!!!

Well whats done is done now.....and to be honest when he gets back you may find that things were so boring and uncomfortable that he will not want to go again anyway.

Sometimes these boys need to feel the experience of ''made a mistake'' rather than being told they are if she is like the person my son knew....she never talked about me and changed the subject when he mentioned me, so maybe this lady does that when your BF mentions you.

Im sure he'll be fine and none the worse for his adventure