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TabithaJ
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03-06-2011, 09:52 AM
Originally Posted by youngstevie View Post
Yes by my ex husband.

My BC Toby.......was taken and PTS whilst I was at work by HIM.

I came home to find him gone



That is horrendous
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03-06-2011, 09:57 AM
To answer the original question:

No, has never been said to me, but then I didn't have any dogs in my past two relationships.

Now I have Dexter and any bloke who even tried to make me choose would find himself single again faster than he could blink.

It would show that the guy in question really didn't know me or understand me at all, if he thought I would EVER give up my Dexie.
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03-06-2011, 10:29 AM
Originally Posted by TabithaJ View Post
To answer the original question:

No, has never been said to me, but then I didn't have any dogs in my past two relationships.

Now I have Dexter and any bloke who even tried to make me choose would find himself single again faster than he could blink.

It would show that the guy in question really didn't know me or understand me at all, if he thought I would EVER give up my Dexie.
Many years ago I got a 6 months old German Shepherd bitch, because a guy gave her up when his girl friend said "either the dog goes or I do ." The reason was because of the dogs shedding and she was "house proud ". The point is that she left him 3 months later anyway. I dont think he will ever give in to emotional blackmail again. As someone else said,the relationship is already in trouble if a person says something like that.
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03-06-2011, 10:34 AM
I made it quite clear my animals are more important to me than any man. Needless to say my ex's are ex's for a reason... however my new OH was told bluntly men come 2nd in my life over my horse/dog/other animals, luckily he is an animal lover, and would never ask me to choose
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03-06-2011, 10:47 AM
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Has a partner ever really said that to you.?
In a word Yes and I picked the dogs x
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03-06-2011, 11:09 AM
Steph, I'm horrified for you How did he get the vet to agree? What reason did he give?

My ex-fiancé was very much an animally person too and would never ever had made that ultimatum. My current boyfriend is not really very animally and too be fair puts up with an awful lot as Cain is a total pain in the backside and incredibly time consuming. However he spends half of his weekends driving Cain to socialisation class

He would never ask me and he knows full well what the answer would be....
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03-06-2011, 11:26 AM
No one would ever ask me that!
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03-06-2011, 12:28 PM
Nope - I doubt any man would risk saying that to me as they know to begin with I have dogs and they come first.

My ex-husband wasn't really a dog person but he'd never see one being hurt. When I had Jaikei she used to sleep ont eh landing. She would take herself off up to bed at around 8-830 every night.

When I went up to bed later I'd find her lying behind his legs under his computer desk int eh spare bedroom. So for all the bravado and macho image he tried to show, he was soft really.

The dogs I have now, including any foster dogs, come first. End of. No ifs, buts or maybes. My dogs and I come as a package.

Having said that, where men are concerned (at least the ones I'm attractexd to for some reason) it's having a Son that causes more problems than having dogs.
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03-06-2011, 01:14 PM
Mmm well my hubby did say to me after a particularly harrowing discussion (probably regarding Jake) 'do you mean to say you would chose the dogs over me?'. For the sake of my 30 year marriage I said 'no, of course not'... did I mean it?........no, of course not.
The dogs get on his nerves as I spend a lot of time fussing and faffing about with them ... I hope it never really comes to the point when he says it's Jake or him!............
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03-06-2011, 01:20 PM
hypothetically my OH has asked who id choose, the dogs or him.
I told him I hope it never comes down to that, but at the end of the day iv made a commitment to my dogs, so it would be them everytime.
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