Hello Kenny and welcome
I am so so sorry to read about Harvey it must be very distressing for you.

A few points, you talk about 'lip licking' that can happen when a dog is feeling nauseous when it has kidney problems for example but you seem to have sorted that .

I am not sure what is going on with Harvey, it doesn't sound like the usual cases of epilepsy more like something neurological maybe with the shaking so it is not easy to make suggestions.

When Harvey is having 'an episode' I would keep him as quiet as possible and leave him alone rather than talking to him then just talk quietly and gently to him when he comes round.

You could try the crate in the bedroom but I would not want to go out and leave him alone in the crate . Is there someone who could stay with Harvey when you go out.

I can only suggest that you be guided by your vet, there are so many uncertainties here.

Please post whenever you need to , there are people here who understand how you must be feeling hugs..x

ETA this thread may be of interest to you..

Does your dog have Epilepsy?

and this one Members experience by Snorry....
Living with a dog with canine epilepsy

o my lord kenny, I am so sorry to hear about Harvey. You have come to the right place for advice, support and comfort. Most if not all of us on here have lost their beloved pets and will be more than happy to hold your hand if things deteriorate.

First and foremost though you must look after yourself because Harvey needs you hail and hearty, and you need a roof over your head for him so personally I would not allow him upstairs where the carpets are ... The last thing you need is eviction. Is it possible to rig up some sort of bed downstairs with him? You need your sleep, so your comfort is important. I don't know your financial circumstances of course but would you qualify for PDSA treatment which I believe is free?

Keep posting ... You will find that Dogsey will be very supportive x gNAshER x

Information here, I went to look for it ..

https://www.pdsa.org.uk/pdsa-vet-care/eligibility

Hi Kenny , just to say lots of hugs. As Gnasher says we've all been at this point and it's the worst time. I have 2 of my girls aged 9 and no its not that old for a dog that's been well looked after, mine still go out every day, walks are a bit shorter for them as they are a bit stiff in the mornings, but apart from that they are the same girls really, bit less Norty thank goodness. I lost my old girl Tawney, at around 10, due to a series of strokes and it wasn't fair to keep her going when she had no quality of life and things weren't going to improve for her. One thing struck me in your post, about excessive drinking, Tawney did the same, then her first minor stroke occurred a few months down the line, obviously an indication I should have picked up on, but just thought it was old age with her as not something I had experienced before. I have no advice I can give you as regards the anxiety he has suddenly presented, only have you a friend who could maybe come and sit with him because obviously its making the whole situation 10 times worse. If the epi meds can stabilise him then hopefully you'll get another couple of years with him before there are any life changing decisions made. If he is used to sleeping in the kitchen with you upstairs and is happy, why change it

Hi Kenny, I feel for you I really do. Like Gnasher said, you need to look after yourself and keep well, sounds like Harvey is trying to comfort you just as much as you are trying to comfort him. Thinking of you and please keep in touch. X

Kenny, it just doesn't seem right you Jane no-one you can turn to to lend a helping hand and for that I'm sorry. Don't feel you have to reply individually to our posts, you have enough on your plate as it is. Just let us all know how things are going. Take care x to Harvey