So pleased you have had your chat with your mum, you must both feel a lot better for it. I wish you and your mum all the best.

thanks guys

im going to try really hard now to make a difference to our lives, to make it easier for her in the house, so now ive cleaned my car this morning, hoovered and washed cos im dropping her off tonight for tea with her mates

im cleaning the garden up later, playing with the elders (dogs) on the garden - its boiling here and they dont like being walked in the sun, yet they will play lol

then im going to do the washing, sort the undies out nhoover the house!

so yeah, im trying!!!

Well done Suze, I am sure all the help you can give your mum will be well appreciated by her. Then I am sure your relationship with your mum will improve greatly. Things will be much better all round.