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Location: West Sussex UK
Joined: Jan 2010
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At the risk of stating the obvious & as you're aware, you should never leave a dog & child unattended, no matter how good the dog, or how well-behaved the child.
But despite doing everything you can to ensure that your son & dog become friends & trust each other, there's no getting away from the fact that dogs can see young children as unpredictable. Their movements are more erratic, the signals that your dog picks up from you in the form of body language, tone of voice etc are far more confusing in a young child. So the fact that your dog doesn't like cuddles & fuss from your son is easily understandable. Sometimes children can be unintentionally rough, may accidentally pinch or pull the dog. No blame to child or dog ~ this is just how children behave.
I don't think telling your son off in front of the dog would mean what you intended, as far as your dog is concerned. All your dog would register is your stress, your possibly angry(?) tone of voice ~ but I don't think the dog would associate you telling your son off with your son throwing something at your dog. All it will do is make you seem more unpredictable to your dog.
IMO the best way to handle things is to allow your son to interact with your dog in ways that they BOTH find enjoyable. So playing with toys or throwing a ball may be the most you can expect at the moment.
You could also try letting your son put your dog's food bowl down and feeding her tasty treats now & again. But as for the cuddling & stroking, if your dog is not comfortable with this, then respect her wishes & judgement. She's trying to say, in the only way she knows how, that she doesn't want your child to be too hands-on at the moment, so she avoids close-up interactions. Maybe your son has accidentally hurt your dog in the past, so she's now avoiding that happening again by keeping at arm's length.
It won't be long before your son is old enough to do more with your dog, maybe some gentle grooming with a soft brush or grooming mitt. He's too young to understand how hard he's brushing or touching at the moment, so just be patient & wait till he's a bit older.
I'm sure that they'll bond over time, especially if you make sure that all their interactions are fun & positive
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