My aunt is coming over, what should I do?
So my aunt is coming over, haven't seen her since my grandmother died in 2009. Hadn't seen her before that since her son, my first cousin died in 2000. Never spoke to her much, regardless.
She has the eating disorder Anorexia Nervosa, has for ages, along with PTSD, and bi polar and other issues (including hygienic issues) and it makes her very hard to be around. She's rail skinny, has heart failure, is a smoker, and is in very poor health.
She is about my father's age. The ex wife of my uncle (father's brother), but she is living with him now as she has no where else to go. She's had a very troubled life and it only got worse when her son, my first cousin was killed in the accident in 2000.
She says she's not going to stay, but that is likely not the case. Last time she came here (ages and ages ago, I was young) she stuck around for quite some time until my father had to throw her out. She was stressing everyone out big time.
Well, she begged to come and see us... and though we all tried to tell her we'd come and see her instead... she claimed she wanted to come and see us and that she hadn't been in ages and it wouldn't be the same and whatever, whatever. So my father agreed, to make her happy.
Last time she stayed here, she had to take MY room as my parents share a room and that's a big no... and my sibling is male and that's a huge no. My mother and father would not let her sleep downstairs, said it would upset her.
I DO NOT want her here for many reasons. She is very, very hard to be around. She won't eat anything you give her, she complains constantly, she's horribly messy, she refuses to shower/bathe properly, and she smokes (which I can't stand).
I know Jade is not going to welcome her here and will have to be put outside in a pen for the duration of her stay to ensure there are no problems, which isn't going to be fair to her.
There are soooo many reasons it's a BAD idea to let her even come here, and even my dad admitted she's likely lying about only seeing us and that some issues between her and my uncle have forced her to try and come here for a bit.
What do I do? I really want to talk my dad out of letting her come here, but that seems so cruel knowing she's always had such a hard time and her family is really all she's got left. He also might not listen to me, but I think if I try hard enough... he'll listen.
But honestly... being around her for too long is going to be horrible, plus Bunny will have to be moved outside for however long she stays. She isn't a bad person, she's not a criminal or dangerous or mean or anything, she's just a troubled person.
Her health is extremely poor now, the anorexia has caused some horrible heart failure and we avoid her at all costs normally... I don't see her for years on end so this might be one of the last times I get to see her. I don't want to turn her away, while at the same time I REALLY DO.
Nigredo is fine, he loves all people... but Jade won't even remotely welcome this stranger and it's too dangerous to try anything other than removing her. My parents do not care about that, but I do... it's not fair to her or me.
My aunt will not stay for longer than a month or so... my father will throw her out before long, but even that is far too long. I'm really not sure what to do....