I don't know what to do ?

I am on the verge of cancelling being on the waiting list for our next Bernese.

Gorden was made redundant in October last year and has started his own Education advisory business . It isn't going to badly but its not going great either at the moment there is no wage and we are living off the redundancy money which will start to run out around October this year. He has made some money but that is sitting in the business account.

He is hoping in September things will pick up he is pretty specialised in what he does and can deliver.

My dilemma is do I do as he says and keep on the list he says the money is there for the puppy no matter what. My concern is the upkeep when it is home. Feeding a good diet and a good level of insurance cover. We know from our previous two experiences insurance is very important.

I don't want to string the breeder along and then back out when the pups have been conceived or born. Gorden feels we should wait as he says if things do not pick up he will be looking for a full time job again in Education not easy as we all know. What if this takes time ? What if we can't pay our mortgage and we have to move into rented accomodation finding houses with the option of taking dogs is difficult enough let alone a big hairy one.

Gordens argument then we will sell and move to the middle of nowhere where houses are cheap. We all know the housing market is stagnant. I am in such a quandary I am on the verge of e-mailing the breeder explaining the situation. But haven't quite got round to doing it as I will be heartbroken if I do.

I know if he decides the business is picking up I could get a part time job as he will be working from home but having been out of the work place for over 12 years I am not going to have a lot of choice, but if it paid for the upkeep of the puppy I would do it for as long as I needed too.

I am so heartborken over losing Ollie I cannot contemplate having another dog and losing it again whether to rehoming or illness.

ohhh lynn

i would do what gordon says and wait. things in life can change very quickly. surely the breeder will have more names than puppies so if you had to pull out at the last moment it wouldnt be a disaster.

hugs

suexx

Lots of rented accommodations will allow one dog. Multiple dogs is when it becomes problematic. Hopefully though Lynn, it will not come to that. Food, insurance, treats etc I think for £100, (maybe even less), you could cover what your dog will need, financially. If you think you cannot afford that, then speak with the breeder about your dilemma, see what she says about when you need to make the decision by. If it is too personal to discuss with her and you really feel this isn't the right time, pull out. Maybe it is too soon for you, only you can be the judge of the 'right' thing for you guys. Good luck xx

Do you know when the breeder is likely to have a litter?

I would also hang on in there, see what happens

I agree with both Werewolf and Blackie's mum.

I would wait but then I managed to raise Louie on benefits (and the added help from parents) But I understand why you would want good cover etc, especially after what you went through with Ollie

I agree with the others Lynn, hang on in there, if Gorden says it's ok then it will be

As you have said, if things do go too quiet on the work front then you can always alter your plans and make that move that you have been thinking about but shelved for the time being.

I truly believe that being on the list is helping you cope with the loss of Ollie and all the other things that have been niggling away at you for over a year now, you've really been through the mill and I think that pup will be the tonic you need.

You know where I am if you need to chat xxx

I'd stay on the list, the breeder is no doubt having a litter because she wants a pup herself so with or without you she would be going ahead with the planned litter anyway. Things don't always go according to plan and just because you're on the list doesn't guarantee you a pup anyway so many things can chuck the best laid plans into disarray.

You don't say when there may be a litter born and a pup available for you, so I also think it would do no harm to hang on and stay on the waiting list. A puppy may not be available for a while yet and once they are born you will probably have a better idea of the way things are going with your husband's business and finances generally. I hope things take an upward turn for you quickly. Regards. Rena

Thanks all.

The litter if all goes to plan and we know they can go wrong will be hopefully October born.

Getting it off my chest has helped Gorden understands but I think he feels cr*p because he knows this will help heal my heart and he feels responsible about the situation which is not his faul at all. I know he will pull out all the stops to make this happen and he also says to wait.

I went and had a nice cool shower and have decided to wait and will also look out for some part time work and if and when things pick up with the business or Gorden decides to go and find full time employment because he has made the decision he wants to because the business isn't picking up I can always give up part time work if things go back to the way they were.

It has been such an emotional rollercoaster sincy July last year. firstly the redundancy looming, then Ollie ill and the outcome then problems with mum and our relationship I think I am just being so cautious because I cannot stand the thought of anymore hurt.

What would I do without you all to buck me up and give me sound advice ?

I agree with all the others, things usually come right in the end so hang on in there