good luck in whatever you choose to do sue

i was in this dilemma when we found out my little sister was very ill
it is very hard

let us know what the outcome is

jackie
xx

The only concern I have Amts is space. Money, and time dont come into it.

Leo thanx for your reply, I understand what you are saying and yes I wont jump straight in, I really dont want him to think we dont care about him.

It seems that Tom (my nephew) has no respect for his father and his step mum and causes chaos with his language.

On one hand I feel that its a big step to take taking on a child like that, but then I have raised 3 boys already and one of them had ADHD and was on medication until he turned 16, and he hasnt turned out bad so I must have done something right.

Will need to give this a long hard think.

It must be tough being in this situation
I´m sure you´ll make the best decision for both you and your nephew

All good wishes for whatever you decide here.
I have no idea what to suggest, or whether anything I might suggest would be practical.
Could you get financial assistance from the Soc Services? - they are, after all paying whatever iot is costing to foster him.
Could he spend some time with you - weekends, holidays and board in the interim?

Maybe it would be worth you talking to the Social Worker in charge of him. No commitments, just fact finding?

Good luck - to you and him xx

hmm agree with wot others have said. Have u spoken to ur nephew about it to see what he wants to do?

good luck in whatever you choose to do sue

The thing is, before you make any major committment to your nephew you must find out how it would affect your own family dynamics should you have him with you on a permanent basis. Holidays, weekends, as suggested might be the way to go at first? But remember that hols etc are rather different from living together on a long-term basis. Big family discussions called for here I reckon.

Best wishes for a good outcome to a very difficult situation.
SB

Sue im so sorry, i cant offer any adice but can offer a big hug and loads of luck! xxx

Sue you must feel awful

Good luck in whatever you decide Sue