pepsi, understands, sit, stay and get down/get in, BUT only when she wants to, if she ignores me and i get up to her and she knows i mean it, she will do as asked, she,s excellent with treats, she will sit
and wait to be told she can have it,

We all love oru dogs, but sometimes we over indulge them and create spoiled monsters (the same is true with our children).

Your post indicates to me that you are not consistent with your training.

If your dog does it SOMETIMES it indicates to me that she has learned that "when mum says something I can ignore it until and unless she (insert relevant behaivour) and then I know I will get (insert relevant consequence).

Dogs learn what they live and are a reflection of their owners.

So why not decide from THIS point forward what you DO want and what you do NOT want and ensure there are consequences for EACH time the dog exhibits the appropriate/inappropriate behaviour?

It will be difficult in the short term, but in the long term you AND the dogs will reap the rewards as life will be very calm as they will KNOW what you want and not have to guess!

This will mean both YOU and the DOGS can relax..............

Make a list of rules, stick to them RELIGIOUSLY ie do not say "well it is Friday, I am tired, he has been good etc etc so I am going to let it go" remember dogs learn by cause and effect and by what WORKS.

If their behaviour does not WORK they stop doing it.

You will get what is called an "Extinction Burst" at first, this means the inappropriate behaviour will INCREASE as the dog will say "this always worked in the past, perhaps I better bark louder, longer etc etc" but it WILL work if you expect this and just carry on.
HTH

this little pup is soo adorable, cute and loving, do you think he sees pepsi as his mother because they are the same breed and she looks almost identical to his mother?

No

I will not use the water with pepsi if you think it could be detrimental, tho with pepsi, i only have to show her the bottle and shes off like a shot (i used it a few times because of barking) but stopped as i felt guilty

I know that the initial meeting should have been done on neutral teritory, but we drove such a long way to pick him up and we wernt allowed to take pepsi and they couldnt meet outside as the puppy had had no jabs

One more question, ive read that once i can walk them together this could bond them, is this right?

Thank you so much for the help and advise you have taken the time out to provide, i really appreciate it, i feel a little better and ready for todays challenges