Thinking of you x

Sorry to hear about your dad

Sorry to hear this hun. Hugs to you and your family xxxxx

Thanks for your support every one, i think it partly due to the wait, i would sooner get it over and done with so his treatment if any, can get moving.

If am really honestly i am not expecting it to be good, if it has stayed local and not as bad as the test seems to indicate they will have to pick me up of the floor.

I guess my way of coping is fear to try and prepare myself for the worst so i can try and stay strong when it is confirmed for them.

He is generally tierd and feels warn out as his urologist said last week, they have to way up the odds on if he is strong enough as he is at the mo to cope with the possible side effects of chemo, if that turns out to be the treatment.

So it could be weeks down the line before any treatment is begun.

Works been good to my sister and I we both work at the same place, and our line manager knows whats going off at the moment, so when either of us ask for a day off, she has no problems with it, as it is usually to take dad up to the hospital etc.

We go on holiday beginning of July so hopefully mum and dad will have comes to terms with any news before then so i can go on holiday knowing they are ok ish, but time will tell i guess.

Sorry to be all doom and gloom, every one has problems.

Hugs Leo, you know where we are if you need us xxxxxxxx

marie,

so sorry about your dad. i have been in the same position and i know what your going through.
please keep your own health good, i know this can slip, you need your strength.

give Bacup a call. they are so supportive.

good luck on the 18th. fingers crossed for all of you.

So sorry hun, we are always here for you.

Will be thinking of you all on the 18th

Take care x

hugs to you and your family Leo.
were here if you want to talk, most of us have been in a similar situation one way or another.

Thinking of you
Elaine xxx

I'm ok honest, don't get much time to sit down but hey thats life in general.

I have joined the cancer forum for suffers and careers although i do feel a bit of a fraud, as i am not suffering from it or a full time carer to some one who is.
Well he has his scan next thursday, my sister is taking him up for this as marks shifts don't allow it, but he got confirmation that he is off the day of the result and i am already off, so at least the main appointment is now definately covered.
I haven't called any one at this point, although i might tell mum to if she can't cope with the results after the inital shock period.
Maybe it would do her good talking to some one outside the family as emotions are less likely to come into play.

Thanks for your support, i just wish i wasn't bending your ears as much as i am.

bend away as much as you like. we're her for you. use us as your outlet.

like you said about your mum, people outside the family can help more, no emotions attached.

just dont feel alone. talk to us or ring a cancer helpline they're there to help, not just for your dad, the rest of the family are worried too.