I feel so alone as I have never been away from my boy for long ever since he came into my life apart from the two nights he spent at the vets.
Even when he was well, when I went shopping or had to go out I missed him and as I drove back home I always used to say "don't worry little man, I'm on my way home now" in some hope he would know.
As I open the door he would be there, tail wagging like mad, when he wagged his bum would wag too, he always had a toy or normally his bone in his mouth which he would always present to me. He would bring it to me and drop it at my feet as if to say, here you are dad, look what I have for you.
He would be growling with pleasure, it was a happy growl, it was how he vocalised, a completely different growl to that he made when he saw a strange dog. He has always done it, he would then be circling around my feet, tail wagging like made, licking my legs waiting for his fuss.
He never allowed me to do anything first, could not bring the shopping in or put the kettle on, nope I had to fuss him first which of course I loved doing. He was such an affectionate soul.
This is my second night without hime since he was PTS and it feels so over bearing, oppressive without him, win out knowing he is in his bed downstairs.
I had a ritual of sorts that we did every night without fail, never missed a night of doing it.
When I used to come to bed, id say "bedtime" and he would jump out of his bed all happy and tail wagging and before I came upstairs he would go outside to do his toilet, he would would then literally run back in (obviously he knew and loved his routine) and want big fuss. Lots of kisses and hugs and he would take himself off to his bed.
I suffer from insomnia, part of my health condition, I have to take quite strong sleeping pills to get to sleep so I always used to read for an hour or maybe watch a bit of TV in bed while I waited for the pills to start kicking in.
When I felt he time was right to turn he light off I'd always pop downstairs to say goodnight and to check on him.
He always knew this was coming and we had more tail wagging, more pleasure growling and kisses and then after that I'd come back to bed to sleep.
In he whole of his life we never missed a night of doing this, 9 years same thing every night.
Apart from when his illness kicked in and I still carried it on although his tail wagging and happy growling stopped.
Of course in the last few weeks I have slept downstairs with him more often than not, and in the last week when he was seizing every night I didn't sleep, I was just with my precious lad 24/7 stroking him and willing with all I had to get better.
I could not leave his side, at no time did I want him to feel alone or that I had deserted him.
I feel incredibly guilty that I had to leave him at the vets overnight on the two nights that I did when he was at his most ill.
The two nights he needed me most and I was not there. I know he was in he best place being at the vets but in the end it didn't make any difference, he never got any better so why the hell did I put him through the distress of separation?
I wish I had not done that, I bitterly regret doing that.
I also deeply deeply wish that I had let him go at home and not in a strange sterile vets place. Some where he didn't know, smelt strange and was not his home.
But he the other side of me, the disturbingly selfish part is glad in a worring way as at he end he fought the injection and struggled so hard and I'm 100% convinced his howl at he end was him screaming "Nooooooo". The horrible, wretched selfish side of me could not stand having hat memory every time I look at his bed.
I'm finding it so hard to even stay in the house right now, every nerve is craving for me to get out, run go anywhere but here and if that terrible horrible way he went was here I genuinely could not have stepped back in this house again.
Maybe I'm wrong to feel like this, I don't know but I can only say how I really feel.
I'm normally pretty messed up in the head anyway and Harvey kept me sane enough to enjoy and just revel in his company, his sheer exuberance and joy of life but that's gone now and I just feel dead.
I want to be with him.
He was too young, only 9, which is far too young. I knew of course he would go someday but I hoped it would be when he was 12 maybe 13 and that he would go peacefully and with dignity at a time of his own choosing.
As some have said, some animals know when they have had enough and are able to tell there human companions but Harvey was not ready, he was fighting all the way.
If all of this had happened to someone else I would describe it as tragic and at no time did he show any signs of giving in.
That's why he did not look at peace to me. Even as he was laid out at the crematorium today (they were brilliant btw) he looked wrong.
He still looked as if he was fighting, no acceptance, no peace.
He died by my hand, not when he chose but when I chose and he was not ready. He died in place he didn't know, confused, scared and he trusted his life to me, they all trust us and I arrogantly did that to him because by my human values I thought I knew what was best.