Originally Posted by
Wysiwyg
I will try to explain better
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It would be
partly due to very subtle changes in body language and even owner breathing and heartrate, which dogs can hear and associate with either good or bad things happening to them. I guess another example would be if I said that as a child, you may be used to your parents giving you little taps for fun, but if you knew they were annoyed and you were a bit scared, you'd hate it esp if you were pretty sensitive. That's not a very good analogy but reading this from your first post
There is an element of Jake not feeling as normal behaviour wise, because he "snuck" and "knows he isn't allowed" ... can you say how you know he knows he isn't allowed? does he give body language to say so or is it something else?
Most dogs don't "know" but respond to people's responses.
This is not a "Jake" thing but a "dog" thing. Having worked with dogs and owners, I see a lot of this
But they way you've described this shows that Jake was not relaxed and so on, he was possibly expecting to be told off in some way - either very subtly or else by you or somene (your mum? another family member?).
This rings alarm bells. He would have had a reason for not coming - and my guess is that he was already feeling worried that he would be told off or somethin like that. Something was going on in his head. The only other explanation is that he was hurting - and really felt too bad to come out. However I tend to think it would be the first reason.
You are using the bum tapping as a "punishment" in this context - most dogs don't like being punished. It scares them esp. if they are not sure about what they have done. Because they see their owner as unpredictable esp. if there is confusion about what they are doing/allowed to do.
I know you don't see the bum tapping as a punishment really but Jake will, as he is already not doing what you ask and is already having to be "got" off.
Again, alarm bells ringing ...
sounds as if he was being passively defensive or a bit scared or possibly both. Or again, maybe he was hurting.
In this situation, not a wise move even if he is used to it. He was showing you he was very unhappy either physically or mentally ...
This is either pain or fear (or possibly even both).
It sounds as if you have done it before? If so can you explain the circumstances? I only ask because dogs will start to associate back to other experiences ... if you've ever done this before, he may have been worried you were goingto do it again, even before you did.
I can understand you were scared of being bitten, we would all be the same
Again he was clearly in a bit of a state due to his body language.
This is worrying, it was almost as if he was panicking and biting without rhyme or reason. It's not good and it will get worse if he feels threatened, which I suspect was the case
Ok well that's good - also that you were able to continue after you'd been hurt as hopefully most of it was superficial (thankfully!)
That's nice
Again, how do you know he knows this? I mean, how are you sure he knows it?
That's fine, but he was clearly on the couch for a while...see, that's confusing to him.
So there are 2 occasions when he was on the couch (or previously, the bed - very similar situatoins)
Treats would have been good -probably partically defused any worries he had, so making him less reactive, and also getting him off without a struggle or conflict
And can you recall what your own body language, voice, tone, words etc were like?
I can understand why you were going carefully!
But I am sure this would be extremely threatening to Jake and I'd be seriously surprised if he was not showing something at this point - even just being very still. Or ears back, or tense mouth...it's very important to learn about such things as they give us signals as to wht the dog is thinking. They cannot talk to us, so use their own methods of communication which being humans, we often don't recognise, esp,the subtle ones.
That was predictable (probably by an experienced owner though) - not being critical, just factual
In this moment, Jake has learnt again that aggression "works" for him and helps him control the situation he is worried about. He will therefore use it again.
Ok I think you know all this was a big mistake - I dont understand why you continued, even after you'd had
clear warnings from Jake.
Well, I do understand because what you did was a very "human" reaction
In a situation like this, the human needs to back off and let the dog get off in his own time, and
then take management and training decisions completely away from the actual situation
ie recognise a problem and work with it by training/behaviour modification (preferably with professional help).And keep safe!
He will soon be really not liking your hands near him in certain situations because he will think you are going to do this again - he may be OK when you are cuddling him but when there is a "situation" he is going to start going right up the "Ladder of Aggression" and this is partly because he is not being listened to....
Yes, they won't be helping. Avoid any "
making" him esp, near couches, beds etc.
Either let him get off in his own time or call him or even ring the doorbell and praise him for coming off and give toys he likes ... but really, seriously do NOT confront him again as you will come off worse and Jake may end up at the vets for the last time
The irritation may well be lowering his tolerance and discomfort levels. He's very young to have physical problems and they will be affecting him, poor lad.
I hope I've showed you that both times it was not really sudden (from Jake's point of view) and that esp. the second time you were setting both yourself and Jake up to fail badly (and he will remember what he did and do it more next time ...
).
Again, context. He may well be fine when there is no anxiety/stress/confusion over where he is lying... I suspect this is at the root of the problem and he is being very misunderstood.
How does your mum deal with him, and what other family members do stuff with him, or command him? as it may have impact again on how he behaves. Eg if your mum has told him off in those situations, (very human thing to do) he is likely to react more and to not come to the human when he expects something bad to happen. Even the not coming to you is a huge warning something is amiss with him.
I've taken ages typing this (am not a fast typist
) so hope it has given some more insight?
It wasn't at all sudden, and Jake gave warnings that were not understood - this happens in many dog owning families.
Yes of course - you love him and he is a big part of your life. But if you love hm, you owe it to him to start understanding him as a dog, and educate yourself and your family as to how to think dog. Otherwise he will end up being put to sleep, I am pretty sure.You must get help.
Sorry to be so blunt. I am not saying this lightly, so please don't take offence - but you do need professional help from the right source, namely a reputable person form a reputable organsation
IMO the situation could escalate and become more serious
Wys
xxx