Originally Posted by
mishflynn
There are a few things happening here.
* 1stly your relationship will have suffered abiit due to
a. the recall thingy &
b.you are recently feeling down about your personal life, so if you are feeling down in general he may not KNOW how to behave any more, he may feel unsure of how you are going to recact. My dogs for instance react to be upset very differently , Mav tries to get in my skin hes so close & flynn hides.
* His skin is really really itchy, Its wet & weepy because hes got over active mites nibbling away at him. That must be driving him Crazy!!!!! Thats not his fault, He needs some advocate
now, Did the vet give him a skin scrape? are the ear drops working?
* hes got mixed messages, ie hes allowed on your bed but not your parents. Thats not his fault.
* training issues, Not getting off a bed, just like not recalling is a training issue. This dog needs training, thats also not his fault.
So my reading of the situation is this:
The dog is feeling very uncomfy & sore, his owner has changed recently so hes lost abit of faith in you , then you ask him & punish him for something he dosent understand.
Lozzi, you have to get this dog to training class & you have to get his skin treated.
Ive been abit blunt in this post ,sorry. But Biting owners is not acceptable & i dont want the dog blamed ,PTS, labeled dangerous etc when its really not his fault.
Sorry if ive upset you, but in this instance i will tell it how it is (or at least how i see it) for the dogs sake.
I think this is excellent advice, I agree with others too, in as such as not letting your bf anywhere near Jake at this time.
A few points I also picked up...firstly let me say, I agree with the others , he needs to be seen by the vet! along with you getting him to training.
Secondly, you said you smacked Jake to get him off the bed, then he lay on the floor, and you tried to pick him up... the two combined could have instigated the attack.
He will have been reacting to your behaviour, and (if the tap/smack) is not usual, he will maybe have felt he needed to defend himself against you.
When dealing with a dog who is challenging you , you should never back them into a courner, (which in effect you did) they will do one of two things, fight or flight, and in this case Jake did the former.
Then after the first incident you go back and give him a challenge again, putting your hand out to take hold of him, again Jake may have been picking up on your negative energy, he may have felt unsure about your motives, and again he acted first, then you restrain him to the ground, wrapping a lead round his mouth , all negative actions directed at him.
Please, this is not a go at you, I understand we do things in the heat of the moment, but hopefully this may make you see it from Jake's view.
I think he his skin condition may have something to do with it, (give him a shorter fuse) but to be honest, I DONT think this instigated this behaviour.
I think you have a young dog who is reaching his "kevin" stage, he is challenging you, he has no boundaries , he is getting mixed signals, (he can go on that bed , but not the other one) you must realise he
cant make the connection between the two, if he is allowed on one, he will not be able to see why he cant go on the other.
You need to start today as a new one, do you know about NILF , look it up and put it into place with all of Jakes training.
Dont set yourself or Jake up for a fail, that means, if you get into a situation like this again, dont force the issue, (you are only going to lose)
What floats Jakes boat, is it treats, toys, get prepared, most dogs are nosey so ans sos, if in future, (for instance) Jake wont get off somehting, dont force him, go get something he really likes, and distract him away from the sofa/bed with that... call him, pretend someone has come,,,,,,,,,,oh come see this Jake!!! , or lets go for a walk Jake!! anything to distract him away from this challenge.
Try to leave what has happened in the past now, it is not going to do your relationship with Jake any good if you continue to lock him away or be fearful of him.
You now know, what not to do , you now know that confrontation does not work, so find alternatives, once you do , you wil be fine.
Dont worry, you are not the firs for this to happen, my guess is you are just not as in tune with doggy language as so others are, so its imperative you learn.
An example for you........... my Millie has a very nervous nature, (inbred I think) she is the sweetest girl alive, BUT!! I can read her like a book, she has never challenged me, because I have never set her up for one.
For instance... once Millie is in her basket (at night) she is fine, she wil let me go and stroke her, but thats all, you can see her become defensive, for what ever reason, her ears go flat, and she just gives off a "feeling"....now lets say I need her to get out of that basket, I could do a number of things....1) shout at her to get out, 2) grab her collar to drag her out, or 3) go open the treat cupboard and she is out of the basket like a shot.... result, I have got what I want without any confrontation.
Originally Posted by
Borderdawn
I think he was given a spot on, but you rightly say if it was advocate he would of had a pack of three. Didnt see a pic of him yesterday sorry.
I personally dont think this dog was reacting to pain at all, I dont think his eyes/ears would make him behave like this or they would of done previously. I
think he knows he can get away with things and is trying to see just how far he can go.
I have to agree with you Dawn, the infection may play a small part, but I think its more down to Jake, challenging LB, and unfortunately her reaction to it.